Caused an argument between friends without meaning to

[GnomeyGnome]

I'll try to keep this short but interested in opinions on this situation. Met friend A for a coffee last week, during conversation she brought up friend B and told me she'd got a new job. Bumped in to friend B yesterday and I said "Friend A told me about the new job, how exciting. Congratulations!" Friend B thanked me and told me a bit about the job, we chatted for a while and off we went.

I've had a phone call from friend A today very cross with me for telling friend B I knew about the job. Apparently she is quite upset with friend A and says she can't trust her any more. I had absolutely no idea it was a secret but apparently friend B had asked friend A to keep it to herself. She did not tell me this though! So now she's cross with me because friend B is cross with her. I told her that if she didn't want me to say anything then she should have told me or even better, not said anything to me in the first place!

Not quite sure what I'm supposed to do now, it all feels a bit juvenile to be honest but I hate bad feeling especially when I've inadvertently caused it.

Don't do anything. Storm in a teacup. No idea why friend B wanted to keep it secret but friend A shouldn't have told you if asked not to.

Like you said, schoolyard stuff.

Friend A is feeling guilty and taking it out on you. It'll blow over.

A is at full and b is being a drama llama.

You did nothing wrong so don't worry about it

Why is it a secret? Do they work for MI5?

@ItsAllMumboJumbo

Why is it a secret? Do they work for MI5?

Ha maybe! Honestly though, I have absolutely no idea. If it was something extremely personal (pregnancy or similar!) I probably wouldn't have said anything until she told me herself but it just never crossed my mind that this was confidential information.

It’s between A and B. You did nothing wrong - stay out of it! And keep it light with A, “oh I wish you’d told me then!” (without apology) and let it blow over.
And store away in your own mind that A is a blabbermouth!

@Terminallysleepdeprived

A is at full and b is being a drama llama.

You did nothing wrong so don't worry about it

Don’t think it’s fair to call B a drama llama! She didn’t tell OP she wasn’t supposed to know, or complain about A to her. OP only has A’s version that B was even cross with A. B might have just said, “oh OP caught me by surprise - I’d rather had shared my news myself, I did ask you not to say” in a fairly low key way. Even if it’s not MI5, I think it’s not being a drama llama to ask a friend not to share it and then be cross that they did.

Please tell me you're all 16!

If not WTAF? Friend A has a big mouth IF friend B had said to keep it quiet.

But friend B is weird? Why keeps it a secret?

Back to friend A, you've done the right thing telling her what you told her.

I hope you have friends C-Z because A&B deserve each other & not you! Idiots.

Awkward. I've had a situation exactly like this. With friend A telling me about friend B's job, me mentioning it in passing to friend B and then friend B going back to friend A asking if she had told anyone about the job (obviously she had as I'd mentioned it).

All a bit weird especially when it's nothing exceptionally private or secretive.

I don't understand why you'd keep a new job a secret unless it wasn't certain yet, or why anyone would be upset at a friend telling another friend.

You've done nothing wrong.

You didn’t cause an argument. Friend A did. And is now blaming you because she blabbed.

As others have said, clearly you didn't do anything wrong here. Just let it all wash over you. The only person who maybe did something 'wrong' is friend A, as she was told not to tell people and still did.

Maybe friend B doesn't want her current work to know until the new contract is signed or something.

You didn’t do anything wrong.

YANBU - new jobs are not usually secrets and if they are for some reason (not wanting current employer to find out) you need to keep info to yourself.

However, if Friend B had made it very clear to Friend A that the news was confidential then Friend A is totally to blame.

But now you also know, Friend A will not keep news that she is told not to share to herself!

This is friend A's problem, not yours - she's just trying to shift the 'blame'. Friend B sounds a touch precious, but I may just be saying that because I've been friend A! Hope it blows over soon.

Not your fault the other friend didn’t keep her mouth shut when asked to!

Tell them both you will be ready to resume the friendships when they both grow up. How long did friend B think she could keep her new job a secret and why on earth would she want to?

You didn't cause the argument. Friend A did! Leave them to it...