To go to a firework display alone

[Invisiblewoman1]

Am I just wallowing in self pity?

I am divorced, single now for 4 years other than than on off relationship with a rebound guy. I’be done/ doing OLD it never gets further than date one. Normally as I chose not to but there have been two guys I’ve had amazing dates with then they just hardly respond to any follow ups.

So I’m single. 37. Most of my friends and all my siblings have partners and children. So I find things like firework night so hard. I want to do something but everyone makes plans as there family unit and sure, they would want me to come along but it just makes me feel so Lonely that I’m not someone’s first person they think of when arranging something like firework night.

I was with my husband for 13 years so it’s just hard. And I had a date two weeks ago and really really like the guy but he’s gone quiet with one word responses and so I don’t feel I can ask him if he wants to go to fireworks with me. He’s actually confused me so much and may need another thread about him. So much flirting and then nothing.

Arghhh

Normally being single is fine. But being single and childless at this age means socialising is bloody hard. I could tag along with siblings, partners and children . Would be nice but it also just reminds me how ALONE I am.

Shall I be a loser and book one ticket to a firework display and just go alone??

Unreasonable - no don’t go alone
Reasonable - yes do it

Life is too short. If you want to go and enjoy the fireworks, go alone. No one will be looking at you weirdly wondering why you're by yourself!

Absolutely, go. I was single until my mid 30s and was the only single woman in my group to go abroad alone, go to the theatre, sit in a restaurant for dinner etc - I made a conscious decision in my 20s not to miss out on things by waiting for other people to go. So I went and I had some amazing times!

If you want to go, absolutely you should. You can't allow your relationship status to prevent you from doing things you want to do.

I can't figure out your voting. 😂

But yes, just do it. Life is for living, not waiting around for perfect circumstances.

If I’ve read this properly then you’d be welcome to attend with friends or family but you don’t want to because you feel lonely. I’d suggest you go! It’s lovely you have friends and family that want to include you.
Yes it can be a bit awkward and you can feel like a bit of a spare part but hopefully spending time with friends etc is worth that especially if you enjoy fireworks!
There may be other people there in the same boat, is there a place to socialise like a beer or food tent? Sometimes attending an event with zero expectations of meeting someone is a good thing, takes the pressure off and leaves you open to new experiences.

I do so much by myself - holidays, meals out, cinema. But for some reason a firework display feels like I am showing the world how single and alone I am because everyone will be there in groups.
Maybe I need to make more friends with childless people

@Invisiblewoman1 accept an invitation to go with someone then! Don’t miss on out something you want to do because you’re single.

I go to fireworks displays because I enjoy them. If nobody else wants to come with me that's fine. It's not an event that requires anything other than your own ability to get there, the fee to get in and your eyes to watch it.

@Invisiblewoman1

I do so much by myself - holidays, meals out, cinema. But for some reason a firework display feels like I am showing the world how single and alone I am because everyone will be there in groups. Maybe I need to make more friends with childless people

I've done fireworks solo. I actually felt less self-conscious doing that than other things like dinner and theatre (although also done those happily) because it's dark and really not obvious I was alone.

had a date two weeks ago and really really like the guy but he’s gone quiet with one word responses and so I don’t feel I can ask him if he wants to go to fireworks with me. He’s actually confused me so much and may need another thread about him. So much flirting and then nothing.

My take on it. He's met someone else but hasn't told you because he wants you in reserve in case his first choice doesn't work out. Don't waste any more time on him.

Go for it
Don't feel alone. There will be many people there in groups or couples who are not genuinely happy. No one knows anyone's story.

Check your local Meetup groups - chances are you're not the only one looking to go to this Fireworks display.

Just go if you want to.

Yes go alone !

Take pictures

Get some food there as usually there's some sort of van to buy food at such places.

Go wile and have a fizzy drink or wine and enjoy yourself

I've had to go solo the last few years as my kids are terrified of fireworks and I bloody love em!.
It's not a 'normal' night and you find people are much more open to chatting to you for a few minutes as they're moving through the crowd or walking toward/away from the event.

Go for it

It’ll be dark and people are looking upwards, not around. No one will notice whether you are with anyone or not. And even if they did they wouldn’t think anything of it.

It's not even an issue.
No need for a back story.
Just go and get a ticket and enjoy yourself.
This also applies to any other event or activity you fancy going to.

Thanks everyone!! Firework display was one of my first dates with my ex husband so maybe it’s just got more meaning. But I shall go and order my wrist band and eat burgers and drink wine and talk to strangers

I think you should go, in fact fireworks is an ideal event. People are always chatty, I always talk to people. Go for it!

Of course you can go on your own!

I regularly go to the cinema on my own. I prefer it as I don't have to share my sweeties

I think you could be right that it's got more significance to you OP due to the history with your ex. And yes, go and have a fab time. And longer term do have a look at what's going on in your area where you might meet other people who don't have children (or who have older or grown up children) as they are out there (I am one, and have found a fair few in my town, which is a nice balance to my older friends who generally have 3 apiece!).

I always do things on my own.