To not want to take phone calls after 8pm?

[Greydove28]

Can't work out if im being aibu? I have a lonely relative that phones me after 8pm,normally 9pm for a long chat every couple of days.

I work ft and really busy with family stuff. Got things on most nights. I always feel too tired to start taking calls at this time. AIBU?

Completely understand that it's inconvenient and annoying for you.
But do feel sad for your lonely relative... I have a friend with depression she calls me to off load. It leaves me feeling terrible afterwards and I do avoid her if I don't feel up to it.
I have found calling her slightly better bc I have prepared myself and she is momentarily cheered up bc I have called

Just communicate when they can call or better still arrange that you will call them twice a week

We have a family Whatsapp group and every time I post a quick comment my MIL phones me . EVERY BLOODY TIME!! I moaned to my DH about it, he said I was exaggerating. So I put a one line comment on the chat and within seconds she rang. He has spoken with her explaining that the chat is great to pop down a comment or remind us of a date etc but it's not an invitation to speak as we are both extremely busy with work and home life etc. I would suggest you maybe chat to your relative and see if there is another time or means that may suit you better? Good luck. I feel your pain!

If you have an iPhone set it to do not disturb after a certain time. Then add important contacts as favourites and they can always get through. Everyone else will be silenced/voicemailed until (in my case) 6am.