Unsure about kids party

[Burnt0utMum]

DD7 has been invited to a birthday party of a classmate. Not a child she's ever spoken about so I don't actually know who they are and don't know the parents. The party is at their house on a Saturday around dinner time. She wants to go but I don't feel comfortable dropping her off somewhere where I don't know any of the adults and think it'd probably be rude of me to insist I stay too. AIBU? Should I let her go?

so what if they have a big dog? it's the small ones you wana watch out for 😂
seriously though just text the mum and ask if you can stay for a bit. there not going to say no. if they seem ok then you can choose to leave.

I'd definitely feel more comfortable if it was in a venue or hall. It just get a bad feeling from it being in a house where I have no idea who will be there and especially with the time it's on. If it was earlier in the afternoon I'd think it was more child friendly but it's approaching evening which makes me think the adults could be drinking. I could be worrying over nothing and it could be completely lovely.

Let her attend but you stay too. They might be annoyed but I doubt they’d try and make you leave.

I would just decline and offer to meet for a playmate another time. I'd be truthful and say I'm not comfortable leaving her at your house because I don't know you but my child clearly likes yours so if you're free for a playdate sometime then I can get to know your family and she can come to the next party you hold. Absolutely nothing wrong with keeping your kid safe. There's a lot of weirdos out there in the world, even if the house and parents "look safe".

*playdate

This is actually quite sad. I've hosted loads of parties for my DC over the years, invited kids they know but their parents don't know me from Adam. It's never once crossed my mind that the parents would think my DC live in an unsafe home with some beer swilling chain smoking owners of a vicious dog for parents.

What's more likely is that they're a perfectly decent family throwing a lovely party for their DC and won't do anything that would jeopardise her friendships and school reputation.

You somehow seem set on the opposite being true.

See this is where those people on the ‘I hate the school run’ threads go wrong. The ones who say just keep your headphones on, head down, you don’t need to engage in chat with other parents…just say hi, have a chat, maybe go for a class coffee or drinks, that way at least you have spoken to other parents and can make some kind of judgement about whether they are just normal other parents, or someone plotting to entice your child into their cigarette-smoke and dangerous dog -filled hovel by hosting kids’ parties