So upset

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Is it childish to block and delete someone who has upset you and triggered your anxiety? They know how I feel and no explanation will make me feel any different. I don't want an apology I don't want to hear anything about the situation, I don't care about them and any contact has the potential to trigger my anxiety again so I don't want calls, texts or any contact. Am I being over dramatic 🤔

It is impossible to say without more info about what happened, but it is your phone and your mental health, you are at liberty to block someone and you are of course correct to prioritise your own peace of mind.

Delete and block. Assuming it’s not your teenage dc.

If you don’t care about them then surely blocking them would be no big deal?

Well it completely depends on who the person is and the context - but ultimately it's your choice who you have in your life.

Thankyou all

I agree. Block, delete and move on. You have to safeguard your own mental health - this is not being dramatic, this is looking after yourself. Good luck OP and give it no more thought.

Nope, I've had to do it a few times over the years, and never regretted it once.

Hope you're OK op

Someone sent me an unexpectedly unpleasant message recently OP. I sent a very curt response and then blocked. No regrets at all! Do you what you need to do.

Lovely thoughtful and reassuring responses... thankyou

Someone I considered a dear friend cancelled me recently for something that happened that certainly triggered her but was absolutely not mean or spiteful- it brought up childhood feelings.

It was massively upsetting for me and we both lost a valuable friendship. It might have been healthier if she could have recognised that our situation was NOT her awful mother abusing her. She prefers to cancel the person who reminded her. It’s a lifelong pattern and it’s very sad.

Difficult to comment on your situation without more info but ultimately it’s up to you.

Ultimately that's what I'm doing "cancelling" them. Feels abit out of the ordinary for me to do something like this as I'm usually a pushover where they are concerned. They are more a business acquaintance than a friend so nothing much to lose and as LYNTHEYRESEXPEOPLE said its my choice who I have in my life. Love that.

You say you don't care about them and nothing, no apology, will make it better.

Then, on those bare bones of the story, I would say yes, go right ahead. If someone is causing you trouble and upsetting you terribly then block and delete.

If though, you think that they may try another method to get in touch-leaving you jumpy as to when and how that might be, I would drop them a quick line saying they are blocked and deleted and, if they care for you, then to please accept it.

Good idea YearsSinceISawYou

Feeling so much better having read all your replies... seriously thankyou all.

Do you currently work with this person? Will blocking them make your life harder I’m the long run?

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I'm self employed and will lose their future business but it's minimal and I already feel better knowing they can't contact me...

I was thinking you were my friend who has been ignoring me for over a month and I’m thinking whether sod it, 8y of our friendship thrown to the bin because of their attitude towards me. I block them the other day but decided to unblock.

I think people move on and we lose some friendship but gain others. If someone doesn’t treat you/ respect you then it’s not worth your time