Repeatedly pocket dialled by ex-boss - really?

[Glitterspy]

Not sure if I’m imagining things or BU so after some experience/opinions please.

I worked for a small/medium company for several years, finishing late 2019. During that time I had a close working relationship with the MD, a man in his 60s (I am a mum of 2 aged late 30s). At the time I saw him as a mentor and “business dad”, nothing more. He became increasingly “friendly” and after a boozy work lunch one day, he tried to kiss me. I refused and went back to my life.

Since I quit, I have had a series of WhatsApp “pocket dials” from this man. I never answer - I don’t think it’s appropriate for a work contact to call without proper arrangement for one thing. I also have nothing to say to him. No voicemail ever left (surely if it was truly pocket dial you’d hear scuffling/background sounds on a voicemail? Or maybe not if it’s WhatsApp?)

Our last real conversation after I left the company was basically him trying to make me “promise” to “stay friends” with him (!) and me saying no, this is too intense and inappropriate and I don’t appreciate the pressure at all. But the calls continue - often nothing for weeks then two yesterday, two today.

A couple of weeks ago I texted him and asked whether he was actually trying to contact me or whether it was pocket dial. He said no they were pocket dials. However the calls have continued. This morning I texted him again saying I have received more calls and have had no response which is unusual - he would usually have text right back.

AIBU? I feel really unclear and uncomfortable but don’t really know what to do. I wish it would just stop.

Do you have a nice photo for WhatsApp? Change it to one of a tree or something

My name begins with an A and i get pocket dials occasionally. Also got called a few times by a friend's toddler.

He's looking at your past whatsapp convo and accidentally pressing call when he looks at your picture. Or he is calling on purpose for a reaction.

Block him, the small chance of freelance work from a creep who tried to kiss you and trampled on your boundaries is absolutely not worth it.

I’d block his number instantly.

I’d also be reporting it to the local police, so they can start to build up a record of his attempts to contact you. This will help if you need to take things further with the police.

Do not contact him again, ignore any messages from him, don’t reply - but show them to the police, and block his email account and all his social media sites. Check your privacy settings on social media to ensure he can’t follow you.

You can block/unblock at any time on WhatsApp. I’d be tempted to block/delete the number just to see if he attempts another method. It sounds like he has a major crush on you. 🤮

'Oh that's so annoying with the pocket dials, I used to have a phonethat would do that! I'll block the number so that you won't end up with potential mobile bills just in case it keeps happening. All the best :) '

The fucker will get the message.

I would bet money that you’ll block him then he’ll pop up on LinkedIn trying to wheedle his way back in

What a creep

Police? Wouldn't they say just block him? I really don't mean to be rude to the OP because any which way it's fine but I still don't get it.
Either he's a creep, block him, there was a bit of a thing and it's not over, block or not, or he is accidently dialling, in which case email or ring him and ask him to make it stop. None of these reflect badly on OP and I really am not trying to be rude but I don't really understand the dilemma. I think the police would only be after written evidence of asking him to stop and in no way do I demean women's right to safety and if he is an abuser or stalker fair enough. I wouldn't freelance for either of those personally hence my confusion.

@Glitterspy

Maternity coat - this is exactly what I think. It’s not pocket dials is it. Ok. I’m going to block and put this whole sorry episode behind me.

Dragonanddragon - I guess human emotions are complex and shades of grey rather than black and white. That can make life peculiar. Hope you never have to experience this kind of thing and if you do I hope no one you ask for helps responds by calling your issues peculiar.

Block and block on linked in etc

Ooh.. I
Had an ex colleague called Aaron. I’ve given him a few pocket dials (not many,
Just 2 or 3 over the period of a few years). Hope he doesn’t think I’m stalking him!