To think he should have stayed for the whole weekend .

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His kids were due with him but their mum brought them on holiday this weekend. I have my kids this weekend. Their dad has them eow.
It's bank holiday weekend where I am and we spent Friday and Saturday nights together.
AIBU to think he should have offered to stay over tonight instead of meeting friends to watch the footie and see his family
After?
We see each other every weekend for an overnight and spend eow together. We are a couple for the last year.we live 50 miles apart.

So he's spent Fri and Sat with you and your kids, and rather than him see his friends and family today you think he should have stayed with you and your kids again?

What?

God no, he’s been there half the weekend. You should enjoy the rest of your weekend just with your kids… give them some 1:1 time with mummy. Sounds like you see plenty of the OH!! Enjoy having solo control of the remote back.

Yabu yes.

Mates are important too

But he had plans to meet up with friends?
Are you saying he should have cancelled that when he had already spent Friday and Saturday night with you?

It's not unreasonable for him to want to spend time with other people he cares about.

Nah. He clearly had other things planned. YABU.

YABVU.

He should be able to see his mates as well.

No. Keep him on a loose rein, not a tight one. He needs to feel free (as do you). You're lucky you only live 50 miles apart, not 150 like me and my dp!

I'm I being really dim here just I didn't get what we're being asked here!!

YBVU, good grief he wants one night with friends and family after 2 nights with you, needy much?

But he spent Friday and Saturday with you and your children. He’s today seeing his mates AND his family, compressed into one day. He has prioritised you. Are you threatened by him seeing his friends? Is that making you insecure? He really hasn’t done anything wrong.

Why shouldn't he see his friends and family for part of a weekend?
YABVU

YABU.

Why should he spend all his time with you and your DC?

Sounds like a totally normal thing to do

Is this a reverse? If not YABU

I did wonder if I was being unreasonable and thought as much, thank you.

YABU.

You’ve only been with this man a year, you don’t seem to live together, why does he need to spend every day of a bank holiday weekend with you and your DC?

@CyclingIsNotOuting

But he had plans to meet up with friends? Are you saying he should have cancelled that when he had already spent Friday and Saturday night with you?

This. YABU.

Some people want to spend as much time as possible with the person who they are dating, other people still want to fir other people into their lives and protect that time, neither are wrong.
It might hurt but as far as he is concerned he saw enough of you until the next time.

If he had no plans and was sat at home on his own bored instead of seeing you I could maybe see your POV, but he has spent 2 out of the 3 long weekend nights with you, it’s reasonable he has arranged to see a friend and his family on the remaining night. Or do you think he should never be able to see his friends?

You are being unreasonable and if I was in a relationship with you and you raised that you were unhappy I’d seen friends instead of seeing me I would think you were hard work and rethink the future of the relationship as it’s important to still have a life outside of your partner.

YABVU.

He would rather watch football than be with you ?

You should have offered him 45 minutes each way and a meat pie at half time. 😏