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AIBU?

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House party

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Emrew05 · 24/10/2021 14:14

Hi all, both a vent and looking for ideas on how to deal with a situation/AIBU.

So we moved into our house December last year the area is lovely the only problem we have had is twice now the house in the next road that our next-door neighbours back onto have had two parties now with music so loud we can hear it in the front of our house with all doors and windows closed (our garden is quite long, certainly not on top of each other). Our boys share a room and it is at the back of the house and it's super loud in their room. The first time we just left it as the boys fell asleep fine but weren't well at the time and later on it started to disturb them. I went round around midnight, knocked, explained and asked that they just turn the music down not off as I understand people have parties, that's fine but it's disturbingthe kids sleeping. They said yes but an hour later it was the same. I went around again and they were quite hostile at this point. The music went on for around another 40 minutes.

Last night it was the same except for I went round around midnight again and asked just for them to turn it down. She clearly remembered me and was instantly snotty saying "well call the police then!!" I said that I wasn't looking for anything like that and the decent thing to do was to turn it down a bit (the base is insane as well as it being club style loud.) I was told its her daughters birthday and it's not her daughters fault it's disturbing my kids! Any experience of amicable solutions/tactics people have used to address things like this? I don't want to go down the council route and don't think two parties warrants it but I'm concerned it's going to be a frequent thing! AIBU?

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Viviennemary · 24/10/2021 14:19

It's annoying but don't think you'll get far complaining when it's only twice a year or so. And really it isn't going on all night. I wouldnt like it either but would just tolerate it under the circumstances you describe.

AspCommie · 24/10/2021 14:20

I don't think 2 parties in the space of a year is a big deal.

HangOnToYourself · 24/10/2021 14:22

It's just part of life and as others said 2 parties is hardly a lot, and midnight also isnt that late at the weekend. I know it's tough with kids tho

girlmom21 · 24/10/2021 14:22

Can you just ask if they can notify you when they're planning a party in future so you're aware and can make arrangements for the children?

Emrew05 · 24/10/2021 14:23

Thanks for your reply. I think what I find frustrating is that we're not even saying turn it off, just reduce the base/turn it down so its not so loud in our house. Had plenty of house parties in our time but never that loud and would have 100% turned it down if we knew we were disturbing anyone, especially small kids!

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Merryoldgoat · 24/10/2021 14:25

2 parties since December? I couldn’t get agitated about that.

If it was really disruptive at the time I’d just call the police straight away.

LolaSmiles · 24/10/2021 14:25

Common sense says noise should be down by midnight, but sadly some people are rude fuckers.

2 parties in a year isn't much though.

Emrew05 · 24/10/2021 14:37

They could have one every weekend if they wanted, I'm not saying they shouldn't have parties at all it's just that it's SO loud both times, we could hear the lyrics in the other end of the house with the telly on. I just didn't think it seemed unreasonable to ask them to lower it at that time of night, no respect for the people around them! Thanks for letting me know it's not unreasonable to find it annoying though! 🤣

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Emrew05 · 24/10/2021 14:38

@girlmom21

Can you just ask if they can notify you when they're planning a party in future so you're aware and can make arrangements for the children?
Thanks for this suggestion!
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