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Original poster

To postpone dd’s party tomorrow?

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tiredisnottheword · 23/10/2021 10:56

More of a ‘what would you do?’
Dds 4th birthday party tomorrow. Had an email from preschool yesterday to say they are closing next week due to rising covid cases in the group.
The children don’t have to isolate (this is madness to me, but that’s another thread) and advised we take the children for PCRs - which we did for dd yesterday.
Now we have a situation where half of the group are from nursery and half are our friend’s children. So far 2 from nursery are still happy to come and have had negative tests but getting the sense our friends are uneasy about coming and may drop out.
This is a nightmare! I’ve obviously got so many party bags, cake made etc. Not bought the food yet.
For background the party is in a village hall which would be easy enough to change. As would the entertainer as we are related.

YANBU - postpone the party for say 2 weeks time
YABU - go ahead anyway with less children

My other worry is that with rising covid cases, will they put restrictions in which would mean it not happening at all??
So sick of this Sad

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2reefsin30knots · 23/10/2021 11:00

I think I would go ahead with just nursery friends as they have all been exposed to each other already.

EvilPea · 23/10/2021 11:05

I would cancel. Just because the government say things are ok to go ahead doesn't mean that its always sensible to go ahead.
I would be tempted to drop party bags round to peoples houses with the cake, isolating is shit enough and anything to break the monotony even if it is just a surprise cake.

IamnotSethRogan · 23/10/2021 11:05

I would just go ahead. Ask people to test and make people aware of the situation. You've got all the bits and things are going to get worse before they get better.

To be honest at 4 as long as some people turn up and she runs round on a sugar high, she'll have a ball

Cattitudes · 23/10/2021 11:05

To be honest I would probably postpone assuming that you are talking about 15-20 children and parents. They might be negative now but not in a few days time.

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tiredisnottheword · 23/10/2021 11:09

They have been told they don’t have to isolate, but I agree that just because the rules say so, you don’t have to follow it.
Also only 11 people coming in the first place (small hall). I should have said that in my OP

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stripeymonster · 23/10/2021 12:13

I agree with the idea of cancelling and delivering party bags and cake to invitees. Yes your four year old will be upset but compared to possibly being ill and staying in for ten days plus it is a no brainer.

ShinyHappyPoster · 23/10/2021 12:15

I agree with PPs - cancel and drop party bags round.

CustardyCreams · 23/10/2021 12:16

I would go ahead. Anyone who is worried won’t come. It is only a few hours. Adults can wear masks. Situation probably won’t improve in two weeks time anyway.

EleanorShell · 23/10/2021 12:20

I don't think there is a right answer but just be careful about what you tell DD. If you tell her it's postponed and then restrictions come in which mean it can't go ahead it could lead to more disappointment

icedcoffees · 23/10/2021 12:28

I don't think things will be any better in two weeks.

I would go ahead.

SpiderinaWingMirror · 23/10/2021 12:29

I would go ahead if there's enough willing to go to make a party 6 or so.

LittleOwl153 · 23/10/2021 12:30

I would go ahead - but ask the nursery kids only to come if they have a confirmed negative result.

Xmasbaby11 · 23/10/2021 12:31

I would go ahead. Anyone unhappy with it won't come.

I just wouldn't count on it being better in 2 weeks and kids have missed enough.

DinaofCloud9 · 23/10/2021 12:32

I'd go ahead.

dottiedodah · 23/10/2021 12:46

I would go ahead TBH .Can they do an LFT test on the morning before they come? I doubt situation will improve in 2 weeks! 4 DC is a nice amount anyway .

AutumnLeafy · 23/10/2021 12:55

I'd go ahead but tell everyone you understand if they want to drop out.

Chickychoccyegg · 23/10/2021 12:59

I'd still go ahead with the party, can't see things improving anytime soon.

Yourstupidityexhaustsme · 23/10/2021 13:05

I'm in two minds.

They're together every day, an extra hour or two together isn't going to change that. So if all children are fit/healthy then what's the difference between a birthday party or just an afternoon at soft play?

However, if you're uncomfortable absolutely cancel. Can you rearrange with the hall and do something extra special with DD instead? The zoo or Sealife or something?

VioletVesper · 23/10/2021 13:06

@AutumnLeafy

I'd go ahead but tell everyone you understand if they want to drop out.
This is what I’d do too.
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tiredisnottheword · 23/10/2021 13:08

Decided to cancel as we had so many not happy to come Sad
Would you do it next week when the nursery children have been off all week? Or leave it longer?

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IceCreamAndCandyfloss · 23/10/2021 13:08

I’d cancel. It must be bad for the preschool to close so I wouldn’t add to the situation. I’d wouldn’t want the guilt of possibly passing it on as the pcr is only valid at the time and they could develop it.

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tiredisnottheword · 23/10/2021 13:34

@IceCreamAndCandyfloss yeah this was my thinking. I feel so bad and bless her heart taking it so well!
Just need to decide when to do it for

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