To not believe friend actually connects to ‘spirit’?

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A school mum has recently started up a group on Fb where she posts messages supposedly from spirits who have contacted her. They always seem very general, like a white haired man with blue eyes who says a J name is meaningful, can anyone relate? And it seems like masses of women followers are lapping it up. I’ve known her for about 10 years and she has never mentioned being psychic or anything like this before.
I feel like I want to tell her to stop, that it’s ridiculous and damaging and really bloody stupid, but another friend thinks as she’s taking no money from it it’s just harmless fun for people who want to believe in that. I think there could be a lot of harm in it. Earlier in the week there was a message apparently from a 5 year old boy holding a bunch of flowers and looking for his mummy, with a T name. I mean that felt beyond the pale to me. The poor women that could have triggered something for.
Aibu to want to say something?

Well, at lot of people have noticed that their mental health has deteriorated during lockdown. She is probably one of them.

All psychics are shite-peddlars. Whatever the reason she's doing it, she's deliberately conning vulnerable people - whether it's for attention or for money (she might be doing private consulting on the side), it's wrong and she knows it's wrong.

I did a thread answering questions, while it was just fun, some posters said they understood and it fitted them

I was very clear to be upbeat and just for fun, I would never have done ANYTHING about children or like that

Yanbu to think she's full of shite and reconsider the friendship, but yabu if you tell her that. Either she believes it and will be angry or upset or she knows she's dodgy and won't want you upsetting her money making scheme.

So many people absolutely love that shit. In the US there are "psychics" on virtually every bloody corner set up in little neon-lit outlets. It's mad.

I went to see The World Famous Rosa on Bournemouth pier once just to have a nosey inside and see what it was all about. Totally bonkers but I reckon she was making LOADS of money!

No-one actually connects to spirits. I don't see why it being a child makes any difference, people can be just as manipulated over a parents death, or grandparents, or adult child.

I wouldn't be able to be friends with someone doing that. It's all fake shit and while people should know better than to believe in it, that doesn't excuse the grief peddlers making money out of other people's sadness and insecurities.

Oh dear that's awful. I think the question is whether she's making it up or she genuinely thinks it's true as that's what makes the difference.

Do you talk to her in real life at all? Can you maybe gage if she's OK?

I don't think you are being unreasonable but I can't see that she's breaking any law as such. If people want to find peace or meaning or whatever in 'woo' that's up to them but again as you said it could actually be more damaging than good when it's taken too far.

She’s a total fruit loop. Avoid.
I would play along and reel her in only to sink her arse as a con artist.

Ergh, if it's on Facebook, she's probably trawling people's profiles and posts for information she can use. "Missing my Auntie Deborah she would have been 67 today" etc

I think some people really convince themselves they can see and hear things, maybe they are hallucinations or maybe they are day dreamers. Either way to convince themselves to the point of involving other people is baffling to me!

I’m intrigued as to why spirits who attempt to contact the living are so cryptic about it. Why just the initial? Wouldn’t the best way to “connect” be to just give your full name and the full name of the person you have a message for?

So many people absolutely love that shit. In the US there are "psychics" on virtually every bloody corner set up in little neon-lit outlets. It's mad.

I've lived in the US for 44 years and have never seen this, even once.

Definitely NBU.