Addicted to my hot water bottle!

[heebiejeebies45]

I started using a hot water bottle when I was around 15/16 years old and would only use it during the first couple of days of my period as my cramps used to be really intense. I'd never use it at any other time and never used it to warm up my bed or anything like that.

During my first pregnancy last year, I had really bad morning/motion sickness and would use my hot water bottle every night on my stomach. When mentioning this to my midwife she told me to not use it anymore in case it caused damage to the baby so of course I stopped immediately. I also had really bad SPD so would use my hot water bottle on my back which helped ever so slightly.

Fast forward to now and I'm in my second pregnancy with extreme SPD! I'm using my hot water bottle every night for my back and my poor DP is sweating through the night, hardly sleeping because he's so hot.

I honestly just think I have some sort of attachment to my hot water bottle and need advice on how to get rid! Last night I didn't even have it on my back, I just had it near my legs bothering DP as usual.
It's like, if I don't sleep with it, I feel lonely😂 it barely does anything to help my SPD and I think it's more of a placebo thing.

I'm also like this with the fan. We have a hand fan that is really strong and every night I have the fan on the second setting at the top of the bed.
I'm not hot or anything I just like the vibration of it once it's on! When charging the fan it also has a bright red light which shines on DPs face every night.

So poor DP has a red light shining on his face and a hot water bottle in the bed keeping him super hot and preventing him from getting a good night's sleep.

Does anyone have any advice or has anyone gone through something similar?
I tried a night without the fan and the hot water bottle and I couldn't sleep! Once I had them back in the bed with me I slept fine. I feel like a loony and ever so sorry for poor DP!!

[NuffSaidSam]

Can you sleep in separate beds for the time being?

If not, I think you have to go cold turkey. It's sounds like an absolute nightmare for your DP.

[NotMyCat]

Tape over the red light of the fan
Use the hot water bottle but don't put hot water in? Just have it there
Or put it to your side not his

[LemonTT]

I maintain hot water bottle season from September to May whenever possible. I like a cool room but a cosy bed.

I put myself between it and my beloved. Or make do with it on my tummy in the evening watching telly.

Weather has been up and down temperature wise this year. Some nights just haven’t been cold enough for the hottie. But I try to get it in whenever possible.

[Sprig1]

Your poor DP! Try cold turkey. If you can't do that how about gradually reducing the temperature of the hot water bottle unt5it isn't warm st all. Can you listen to white noise via earphones instead of turning your fan on?

[Floristry382]

I love my hot water bottle too. I have crohns disease and it gives me so much comfort and relief. I think I'd take my bottle over DH so my advice would be to get a divorce.

[SheWoreYellow]

If it’s just the red light on the fan that is the problem, then just stick something over it?

I don’t really see how your hot water bottle is affecting your OH really. If he’s saying he’s got could you have a duvet each, with him having a lighter one/just a duvet cover.

[Danikm151]

Full of support for the hot water bottle. It's like a comfort. I like mine for my feet!
Could you try a wheat pack or a hottie teddy. Not as hot as a water bottle but still gives that bit of heat.

[heebiejeebies45]

@NuffSaidSam sleeping in separate beds isn't an option unfortunately, he does sometimes sleep on the blow up bed in the front room which he doesn't mind

@NotMyCat @SheWoreYellow I never considered sticking tape over the red light so will definitely do that, thank you both! I couldn't have it without hot water as that just defeats the point for me. I think it's because sometimes the hot water bottle isn't on my side of the bed, I'll just leave it in the middle where it'll touch him and make him warmer. We may have to have separate duvets!

@Sprig1 I hate white noise, I think I like the actual vibration the fan gives as opposed to the noise of the vibration if that makes sense

[heebiejeebies45]

@LemonTT @Danikm151 I think that's it, I like the cosyness and comfort that the hot water brings. I just love it so much lol. I'm staying at my mum's for the night and I'm seriously considering taking the hot water bottle with me!😂

As for @Floristry382 hahahaha I'm in agreement with you😂 if it came down to it I'd seriously pick my hot water bottle over DP, it's just so great.

For those suggesting to go cold turkey, I may just have to try that. Thank you

[Shamoo]

OP I am with you. Hot water bottles are the best. Worse things to be addicted to.

Get separate duvets. They do it in large parts of the world. Game changer. So much better anyway, and you can then be the temp you want!