To ask what on earth is happening to me. Can’t sleep, anxiety and general dissatisfaction with life

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Over the past year I’ve been becoming more and more flat. Lots of things annoy me and, whereas I think I used to be quite a nice person, I am now quite horrible. Not to people but lots of things get on my nerves.
My sleep is getting worse and worse. I wake every night and spend hours fretting about anything and everything. This has started to overlap into my day so I spend the day feeling anxious as well.
I just can’t carry on feeling like this. I’ve tried giving up alcohol, I eat well, I exercise regularly. What is wrong with me?

How old are you? Because it sounds like peri menopause.

How old are you? If 45+ I'd be thinking "welcome to the perimenopause "

@deedeemegadoodoo snap!

@Porcupineintherough yup! I guess we have both been there!

Funny that, I just came on to ask how old you are 😆

Ditto above!!

Yeah how old are you?!

peri-menopause, hands down. It's fucking awful

Yeah same! I think it's a perimenopause/pandemic mix of misery. All the most annoying parts of my ASD are coming out - people tolerance is nil. Even fed up with work, and I usually love my job. I can't stay asleep, I'm tired all the time and I snapped at my boss.

How old are you? If 45+ I'd be thinking "welcome to the perimenopause "

You don't have to be over 45 for peri to start. I was 41, my mum was 39. But yes it does sound like peri OP unless you're 21!

I’m just 47. Still having periods.

Ah, common misconception. I too thought that problems started when your periods stopped but no, your hormones start playing up years and years before that happens. Basically you've been loved up on oestrogen for the past 25 years and now its wearing off.

On a serious note, get the to the gp, gets some bloods done to check nothing else is going on and, if not, seriously consider HRT.

Definitely definitely peri. Welcome to the club! I’m 50 and still having periods but I’m about 3-4 years in to symptoms. They are vile. I can’t have HRT so I’m managing it other ways. Luckily work has woken up to this - there are great swathes of us all in the same age bracket suffering in the same way with the brain fog, depression, anxiety and everything else, so they have set up a menopause network, with loads of resources, and training for managers, plus a policy to help us with flexible working and ways to allow us to manage our symptoms better. Bloody marvellous.

Solidarity, sister. I how you can get the help you need.

I’m 51 and also here to suggest perimenopause (also still having periods).

Thank you! I keep snapping at DH and my DC are stressing me out for no actual reason. I’ve googled peri menopause and it definitely sounds like it could be

I think I have this too. I am 43. The night anxiety/trouble sleeping is awful.

I'm 46 (just) and have recently started HRT. I'm still getting periods but symptoms such as low mood, anxiety etc have been going on years and were overwhelmingly peri, so my nice doctor agreed to prescribe it to me. It's early days but I'm starting to feel better already.

Yep, I'm 41. I've had perimenopause confirmed due to some other symptoms. I'm considering going back on the pill after 15 years off it because that can help some symptoms apparently.

I've got a bit to go till I'm 40. I reckon I've been gently sliding into peri since mid 30s...or I'm just a misanthropic grump

Sounds like peri.
I am 52 and still having periods, I am on HRT (patches plus estrogen tablets)

From your thread title I immediately thought perimenopause!

Fyi, 3 years on I'm still having all this (although manageable now with HRT) but still having periods. In fact, having periods more often than before, no sign of them stopping yet.

I’m 48 and I reckon I have been peri since 42 ish, first of all getting intolerant to booze (sad), then not sleeping well, then regularly getting murderous thoughts about either my DH or my DM (or both), then getting TOTALLY exhausted after cardio exercise, then intolerant to sugar. My short term memory is crap and I mix up the dog’s name with the kids’ names and even forget basic words entirely. I’m either over-thinking, or can’t be arsed at all.

It’s been a fun time.

Periods have been 18-21 days apart for years. Hardly get a break from pmt.

This month, a turning point: I missed out a period and my last one was 41 days ago. No chance of being pregnant, and I’m over the moon. I feel better than I have done in ages. I know it’s probably just a little sign that things might be progressing. But I know a lady that stopped at 48 ‘just like that’ (clicks fingers) and I secretly hope that’s going to be me too.