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Relocation...relocation

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belle40 · 21/10/2021 20:22

Hello,
Apologies that this is not really an AIBU but I know this board gets a lot of traffic and I would be interested to hear others experiences please.

I work in a professional role and a little over 2 years ago, I relocated with my child (single parent) to take a promotion. Nice area of the country, good job but a big leap of faith as I knew no one. My child started school (reception) and so far, so good. Then the pandemic came. Like thousands of other parents I worked at home while trying to support a young child. I was offered a position in the area we had left and as I still had a house / friends here, after just 11 months I moved us back.
It took about 3 months to realise I had made a horrendous mistake. Career wise and also we currently live in a v expensive area of the country so buying a better sized home, improving our general QOL is not within reach. The opportunity to move back to my previous dept / role has been raised by my previous employer. No guarantee I would get the job as would be interviewed etc as part of usual recruitment processes. If I do apply and get the job we would have a much better QOL,better promotion opportunities for me but I feel horrendously worried about moving my child again who is now currently year 2 and very settled here. My exP has no contact with our child and I have no local family support in either location although we are a bit closer to family where we are at the moment.
Has anyone been in this situation? What did you do?

Sorry this is a bit long. Thanks for reading this.

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BlueSuffragette · 21/10/2021 20:32

Young children are very adaptable. Would your DD be able to return to the school she attended reception class? If so she would rejoin familiar children in her cohort group. Sounds like the relocation would improve your QL so I say go for it. Good luck x

belle40 · 21/10/2021 20:40

Thanks @BlueSuffragette this is one of the considerations. There is an infant and junior school system so no guarantee the same children would be around. Ideally I would move at the end of year 2 so potentially straight into a very large primary which I am not sure about (currently in a village primary school).

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parietal · 21/10/2021 20:46

Moving at primary age is pretty easy. We did it when dd was 6. She grumbled a little for about a term and now loves the school and new friends etc.

Do what is right for you.

belle40 · 21/10/2021 20:54

Thanks @parietal

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ThatsWhatI · 21/10/2021 21:19

I agree do what's right for you.

ThatsWhatI · 21/10/2021 21:20

DD will settle she'll be fine

TemptedToSleepInTheShed · 27/10/2021 18:10

Surely your husband can help?

JSL52 · 27/10/2021 18:12

@TemptedToSleepInTheShed

Surely your husband can help?
She is single
Barbarellan · 27/10/2021 19:45

What is it about the new role (at prev company) that appeals to you?

Barbarellan · 27/10/2021 19:46

Also, as a manager who recruits if I ask a previous employee to interview I’m usually pretty sure they would be a great fit for the role.

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