To NEVER want to go on another first date

[Spicychickentenders]

I know online dating is a numbers game but fuck me, if I have to tell another random man off the internet how many siblings I have, I might literally just collapse and die.

I'm so tired. Is there a way to skip past all of this? I've had enough first dates for a lifetime. I don't know if I'm just unlucky, or have some critical, unidentified flaw. SIGH.

It's hard work sometimes isn't it?

Give yourself a break and time off away from it and then try again. You've just not met the right person yet.

Hahaha yes I feel you on it. I absolutely detest all the first date bullshit and first dates. I would rather skip to 6 months down the line with someone. It’s hard work keeping up half the time.

YANBU I hate internet dating.

Yes, skip the first dates. Watch it on TV instead.

Skip it. You don't have to do all the boring small talky bits. Go and do something exciting so conversation is about the activities instead.

I have straight up told dates to skip the small talk and tell me their darkest secrets or their most controversial opinions.

remember the line from When Harry Met Sally: ‘Promise me I’ll never have to go out there again’.

I always like going to the cinema as it kept talking to a minimum 😄

@SirenSays

Skip it. You don't have to do all the boring small talky bits. Go and do something exciting so conversation is about the activities instead.

I have straight up told dates to skip the small talk and tell me their darkest secrets or their most controversial opinions.

Love this idea.

I agree with the activities idea. You need to get something out of it regardless - a trip somewhere new, try a new skill, etc. I arranged a date to help me carry some new bookcases up the stairs. A friend of mine got one to put her sofa together after a move. Although he did it so badly she realised she didn't want to be with him.

It's not you. I went on 100+ dates over the course of 2 years before I found a keeper. All my friends who did online dating found it incredibly frustrating. And these are late 20s attractive women with professional careers.

I don't respond at all to anyone who starts asking boring questions from the outset. 'How are you?' 'What you up to today?' 'Where do you work?' Etc etc all completely ignored.
Interesting banter or I don't engage.

Then, like a pp up thread, do something you want to do anyway on a first date. I like walking so tend to do that.

I always made sure the venue was somewhere I liked, and I had something to go on to afterwards, even if just a bit of shopping or a planned film on TV. But yes, they can be tedious. Took me about 30 or 40 dates I reckon to meet one worth stopping dating for!

Give yourself a month off and enjoy it! Go back to it with a fresh pair of eyes in a month or so.