to be a little bit cross with my dad

[SquonkaClaus]

Teeny bit of background...

I have dd1 who is nearly 14, then a laaaaaarge gap, then dd2 who is 3 and ds who is 2.

My dad has always worried that we exclude dd1 from things, which we try not to do, but to some extent it is inevitable, ie: I do things with the littlies while she's at school, or we do things as a family which she would join in on but she doesn't want to, or she's out with her mates, or whatever..

Anyway, this morning, we got a package full of Christmas cards, one for me and dp (that's fine), one for dd1 (on her own) and one for the two littlies (a joint one)

Now, if he had sent a separate card for each child, that would have been fine, but AIBU to feel that he is perpetuating the myth of dd2 being excluded by sending Christmas cards in such a divisive way.

I know I'm probably being silly and petty, but I could do with some input so I can get it in perspective.

tia

I can see your point. But your dd1 might like having her own card, and the younger ones probably won't notice. It's only Christmas cards. If they aren't bothered, don't let it get to you. Your dad probably meant nothing by it.

I, not sure Id have worried too much about that. Too be honest, Iv done it before with my cousins, there was four of them, but one was a lot older than the others, so she got her own card. Im not sure why I did it, but I doubt its to make a point tbh.

I'd say that he's just trying to make her feel special. The LOs won't really care either way about being joint on a card but she might want to put her's up in her room or something. I think its a nice thing to do.

If your DD was feeling excluded by you then I'm sure she would tell you / you'd know. I wouldn't take much notice of his opinion.

thank you.

I will go and find something else to stress about