I’ve had a friend since we were about ten he’s a gay man and I’m a straight women. We used to be best friends had a right laugh. We’re 34 now and I’m finding the friendship difficult and strained. I’m in a settled relationship and expecting my first baby and he’s single and lives alone. I think he’s struggling a bit with everyone else settling down but he hasn’t said. I’m starting to feel like the friendship is becoming one sided with him wanting to talk only about himself and not really acknowledging my life. I’ve carried on making a big fuss for his big life events like getting a new flat and a dog. But when we got a new house he didn’t seam interested and since I’ve been pregnant he hasn’t asked anything. He still wants to chat a lot and go for lunches and even though I’m busy I try my best to chat and see him when I can. He ignored my birthday this year which was hurtful for me. I think I naturally assume he’s going through a tough time and let him off a lot but I’ve realised it’s been getting worse over the past few years and I’m not really sure there’s much friendship left. I think what I’d really like to do is have a bit of a break from the friendship but I don’t know if that would be abandoning him?