to be irritated on so many levels about the I/Ls this xmas.

[deenymcqueenygoreandguts]

Probably, irrationally, hormonally i am but hey ho, i cany help it.
They are not coming for xmas dinner because their son who is 33 single and living at home with them will be out on a bender on xmas eve and is likely to be too ill or not out of bed yet by 3pm to come to ours for a cooked dinner and they dont want him to be on his own.
MIL will do ALL cooking and washing up for FIL who will sit on his fat backside doing naff all all day, and BIL who will be hung over.
so they wont bother coming over xmas day to see ds or Dh, they are not bothered about me (bovered).
MIl i think enjoys bienf the little wifey chasing around after them both all day every day, but why should she not have a day off and why do they not see that??
ffs,

You mean you get out of having the in-laws visit?

Result, I'd say!

now, i am a mother, and i would not want to see my son alone on xmas day at aged 33, however,there is selfish and there is stupid involved in the equasion here imho.

well yes but im one for conflict at any turn, but its principle here that is my argument.

PMSL at "conflict at any turn" - I wonder why they don't want to spend Christmas with you then?!

hmm, wonder why they dislike me so much too???

If she keeps wearing a sign on her forehead that says 'doormat' she will be treated as one by your FIL + BIL. It's your dh's family, let him sort it out!

i feel it is my duty to inform them of what twats they are and i feel it is my duty to inform her of what a fuckwit she is.

in my head...............(obviously)

LOL...can you imagine me saying that to them
"the reason i have invited you all to christmas dinner this year is to tell you ........."

twats and fuckwits flying round on the baby jesus's birthday.....

Also, we are not having my dad round this year (he's on his own and my brothers live abroad so I am the only family) as he will go out on a bender with his friends on xmas eve, not get up till very late on xmas day and then sit on his arse and expect me to wait on him hand and foot. He will then not help with the clearing up or the children. He will then say that he has to leave early as he is meeting friends.

I am not a waitress for him....
He needs to give and take a little (rather than just take)
I don;t feel guitly as we all have choices and that's the choice he makes -as does your MIL.

You are getting out of having the ILS! Leave em be I say. I really wouldn't let it worry you. Just have a nice family xmas with your DH and DS.

It is her choice, you are right.
less work for us i guess.
just got my mother coming round with my sis and neice.....now THAT will be conflict.