to expect DH to help out with the morning chaos if he is home.......

[ChristmasSendsMePsycho]

Mr Psycho is off this morning to help me sort out the solicitors with my car accident claim. (another rant/story under legal/money matters).

I am having ranty arguemnents with all three girlies about lack of hairbrushes. (got PMT so am irritable anyhoo).
In our house we have many many hairbrushes, the girls even have their own names on two each to save arguements and false accusations of theft!. This morning ALL the brushes are gone from the drawer except for mine (cos I listen to my own advice on keeping things in the right place, and so two girls take those leaving DD3 without one and she too needs to do her hair.
I am trying to referee......altho in a high pitched PMT manner

in the meantime the boys are downstairs wrecking the lounge with the punchball balloons left over from DD3's b/day party and knocking over the xmas tree.

and where is DH?????

In bed claiming that I normally do all this on my own anyway and so just pretend that he is not here blah blah bloody blah!

ALL the kiddies know he is home (they are not stooopid you know), and so keep coming in to jump on him too and using him against me....also making breakfast/dressing/teethcleaning/bed making etc take twice as long or simply being ignored.

I am stressed, he can see that, I am still really angry about the solicitors, yet he lays there and LAUGHS at me getting riled!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!.

to be fair I am also seeing the humour in all this so am not sobbing incandescant with rage, but still.....SURELY HE CAN GET UP AND JUST DO SOMETHING TO HELP!

at least he can take over DS2 as he is claiming that he has a cough and can't go to school. I have this arguement every single day with DS2 as he is a velcro child....one morning 'off' would be lovely.

they all gone now so tis probably a moot point anyway, but still......

I AM NOT BEING UNREASONABLE TO THINK THAT HE CAN HELP!

no you are not being unreasonable at all, chuck a cold wet flannel on his face when he's dozed back off

he is being an @rse. But you knew that already didn't you?

yanbu

woohoo....I knew i was right

no YANBU. I could understand more if he had to go to work early, but in bed ?! If my dh did this he would be dragged out of bed, or I'd make sure we were so noisy he could never sleep anyway.

he sulking.....threatened him with awet flannel (actually, told I was allowed to as got permission from frizbe) and he not happy that I am moaning about him TO THE ENTIRE WORLD

yanbu at all

but then.. you are on the computer

or have they all gorn orf to school now?

Yep, they gone. picked up by my friend at 8.40 as I still not able to drive from car accident.

soooooo....am allowed to be here

ok then yanbu with knobs on !

with knobs on!

i mean
way YANBU

christmas shopping awaits

euw

I think people find it hard to change the normal pattern. helping is hard but being responsible every day for something which many fathers are is not so hard. My ex did the older 3's breakfast whilst I fed the twins. He put washer and dishwasher on before we both left for work. In other words you have a division of jobs you each do obviously both pitching in if there's a problem with the other's jobs getting done but it's hard suddenly to help if you don't know what to do. I think giving a few clear tasks - you do XYZ is better than expecting someone suddnely to know what needs to be done when they don't normally do those jobs.

Psycho
Xenia, whilst I agree with your post, surely the problem here is that her dh hasn't gotten himself out of bed, or even offered to assist? non?

I probably wouldn't have got quite so ranty if he had got up/dresssed, not sniggered and just made me a coffee. I mean, he makes me a coffee before he leaves in the morning normally for me to wake up to (I agree, that is a lovely DH), so that wouldn't be an 'un-normal' thing for him to do at least now would it????

and as for me asking him......I did, kind of, in my shouty/ranty/pmt kind of way