… to think sometimes you just know things (psychically?)

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I’m not into woo, don’t believe in ghosts or the healing properties of crystals etc… But a few times in my life I’ve just ‘known’ a friend is in crisis and that I should make contact, or managed to reach them telepathically. Just wondering if anyone else is the same.

I have two friends that I am very close to. They had v troubled childhoods and don’t have much in the way of a support network- just me and one or two other friends. Both live far away and due to the chaotic nature of their lives I don’t see or hear from them very often.

Friend 1 went totally off radar for about 5 years (complex mental health and trauma). Every 6 months or so I’d ring or email, and never get any response. The only way we knew he wasn’t dead was because his YouTube account was still active... But one day he did pick up the phone, sounding a bit freaked out and crazy, and said ‘can I ring you back tomorrow?’ Which he did, to tell me he’d been standing on a bridge about to jump when I rang.
A few years later we were in rather more regular contact, with weekly phone calls. Then he went awol again. I just knew he wasn’t ok. I was worried enough to call the police and within 2o mins was talking to him in a secure psychiatric ward.

Friend 2 I hadn’t spoken to for over a year. Tried calling, nothing. I just knew he was in prison, and he was (first time as well so not as if it was a pattern).
A few years later I was very worried about him and couldn’t get hold of him. I went to the top of a big hill we always used to climb up, and spoke to him telepathically, telling him to contact me if he could hear me. Got home and there was a message from him. This happened a second time as well. We are normally in very sporadic contact.

It’s weird. These people are not in my regular life. Months or years can elapse between conversations. We’re very different people with very little in common on the face of it (different social backgrounds, educational attainment, financially, geographically…). But they are very special to me. I’ve been with them at pivotal points in my/their lives and I believe there is a connection there.

Hmm sometimes it’s coincidental that of 1000 thoughts 2 came true. What about all the ones meant nowt?

Friend 1: You called every few months, and one time you called during a crisis. Good timing but not psychic. You didnt have a woo feeling of "I must call". Later, when you could get him on the phone, it was a reasonable assumption that he might have been ill again. That's not psychic. That's a reasonable response to a mentally I'll friend with a history of suicide attempts being out of contact again. I've called for a welfare check in that situation. Lots of people do.

Friend 2. You said you had tried to get hold of him, so he would have missed called/messages/emails. You took yourself off on a walk and when you got home, he had messaged because he saw all your missed calls/messages/emails. You didnt contact him telepathically.

Maybe you should go to bed and get some sleep? You'll think more clearly after some sleep.

I think sometimes these weird coincidences can be so freaky. Some people do seem to be more tuned in to thd universe vibes than others, but i think for most people its more a case of remembering these incidents because you were right. But theres been countless things i worried about happening or really expected to happen and been wrong

I’m not woo but I know what you mean. My grandmother used to call me on Sundays. The only time she deviated from that was when I ill - it was like she knew.

I’m not a woo person at all, and I have a decent amount of scientific training. I have to say I’ve experienced similar odd “knowing” events. I’m open to these being coincidences; but I have no way of proving whether they are or not.

Our brains remember all the times we were 'right' and forget all the other times. That's how tarot readers etc work, you only remember the stuff that comes true. Sounds like a couple of coincidences to me.

I’m sure you’re right OP.

Everything happens for a reason as they say.

Interesting. Yes I do believe we are all connected

I just knew he was in prison, and he was (first time as well so not as if it was a pattern).

Sorry, but I just don’t believe this happened.

A few years later I was very worried about him and couldn’t get hold of him. I went to the top of a big hill we always used to climb up, and spoke to him telepathically, telling him to contact me if he could hear me

And this made me giggle 😂

A few weeks ago I would of said no it’s coincidence but someone I used to be close to had news and I already knew. I know it sounds ridiculous and I can’t explain how I knew but I did.

This isn’t exactly psychic. You had a friend you were in weekly contact with who then went awol. This worried you. Obviously.

And if you are in a close relationship with someone who is troubled your mind always thinks something might have happened to them. Sometimes it’s right.

And as you were very worried about him and had been trying to contact him, I think it’s more likely that he saw your attempts at contact and replied while you were up the hill than that you telepathically contacted him.

What was his message? Was it ‘hey got your hill mind reach out, I’m fine.’ Or was it more ‘hi know you’ve been trying to reach me, just getting back to you.’

Im not sure where I stand on the whole woo thing but I get what you mean op.

I know what you mean op.

I also get what people are saying about remembering the times you are right. I am in the fence. You see on here all the time people saying 'your intuition is never wrong' when people randomly susoect their oartner is cheating. Sometimes they are right but its not intuition, they are inking up on tiny tells, from someone they know realy well.

People seem to forget all the times people think their partner is cheating and its just paranoia. Yet tons of mners will just say the person is good at covering their tracks.

On the other hand I have incidents where things have seemed odd. A friend called me in the middle of the night after having a bad dream about me, it really upset her. I was up having had dream my ex had found me and was attacking me. She came over and stayed with me. Was it coincidence or not? I don't know.

I think some people are good at listening to their intuition. I think alot of intuition is just subconsciously observing behaviour of people and being good at it. Sometimes people's intuition is just their excuse for their own paranoia and issues.

I keep an open mind. Its possible there's more than we know. Its possible there's not.

It's a combination of subconsciously picking up on micro behaviours and coincidence.

We do all naturally forget all of the times we had 'a feeling' that turned out to be wrong.

a sixth sense. yes.

One morning, 11 years ago, a random thought about an ex that I hadn't seen or thought of for about 20 years popped into my head and a few minutes later a car exactly like the one he'd had when we were together drove past. One of his friends messaged me the following day to tell me he'd hung himself that morning.

There are really weird coincidences in life. I have often thought / talked about someone that I've not seen in months or years - usually referencing not seeing them; and they've turned up the very same day.
I also get that deja vu feeling frequently where I feel like I've already experienced the same situation I'm in. Not sure I can explain it properly.
I had a horrible feeling of impending doom, couldn't shake it. Was quite upset and concerned about an immediate family member. Later the same day I found out that person's only sibling had been rushed to intensive care and didn't survive.
As has been mentioned, I think humans have varying levels of intuition and some listen to it more than others. I don't think I'm psychic or anything.
It makes sense as a survival instinct I suppose. Sending risk or danger.

Yep I have this. Just really good intuition maybe?

I'm convinced my mother and I have a psychic connection of sorts too.

I don’t know, maybe, but you sound like a good friend.

Once someone wants to post about "woo" stuff but starts with the disclaimer "I'm not into woo...", there's a higher chance they ARE into woo (at least more than they let on) but don't have the balls to admit it.

People usually get mocked on MN for being into "woo" stuff so it's understandable.

You’re a good friend but no, you have not managed to reach them telepathically. Had you just managed to reach the wine telepathically when you wrote this?

I always know when a woman is pregnant. It's weird. Not necessarily from being with them in person either, and often before they know. I assume there must be some kind of tell but it is odd.

It's coincidence. When my dad died suddenly I was at work without a care in the world. No inkling at all.

@torquewench

One morning, 11 years ago, a random thought about an ex that I hadn't seen or thought of for about 20 years popped into my head and a few minutes later a car exactly like the one he'd had when we were together drove past. One of his friends messaged me the following day to tell me he'd hung himself that morning.

But how many times have you thought of an old friend and they've been perfectly fine?

What car was it? Hard to believe one hadn't passed you in twenty years. I think you just noticed it because you'd been thinking about him.