Aibu...to be raging

[YodaiamsaidI]

Friend who is also single mum but has moved further away from school asked this morning if DC in same class as mine could come here for 1.45hrs to get ready for Halloween disco while she sorts younger DC for her one.i said "yes of course"
School ends and my DC returns home with not one DC like expected but my friend and all 3 dc.
Ok I think,no big deal,I was doing a batch cook of chilli to freeze so I feed all 5 kids instead(my 2 her 3)
She takes youngest to her disco and comes back and we entertain the others,get 2 of them ready for disco etc
My youngest DC and her middle goes off to disco,her youngest returns and we pass the time for over another hour and half.
In all this time both our oldest secondary age dc have been sat together.By the time they leave 3 hours have past,I get busy tidying the house.
Within an hour of leaving she WhatsApp messaged to say her eldest had had a pcr test YESTERDAY and the result has just come back positive!!! WTF was she doing out of the house!!
My eldest DC is 12 days away from sitting her Maths GCSE and just spent 3hrs sat next to positive child.
I kept my cool with her when I rang to discuss,mentioned I was worried about my oldest because of GCSE but didn't lose it on her like I wanted as she suffers with her mh (as do i)
But I'm absolutely furious I don't know what to do with myself.
Sorry,just needed to vent somewhere.

Wow. Thats beyond awful.

All children taking PCRs due to close contact in school are still coming to school. Your friend has followed the rules however annoying that may be.

If it was me I'd have informed you to see what you wanted to do.

You kept your cool, I couldn't have done that. I would have absolutely flipped at her.

Oh wow, a total CF and completely selfish in all areas!

Thanks all,my point exactly,I wasnt even given a say in the risk,which I wouldn't have taken because of timing.My poor dd is stressed enough without this,just fingers crossed now.

So you do her a massive favour while she cuts fast and loose with your risk to health and life events unbeknown to you. That is some gall she's got there!
I don't think it's be refraining from telling her what I thought of that, I wouldn't go mad shouting etc but I'd be making myself crystal clear.

I'd be livid.
It just makes sense to be cautious while you're waiting for results, regardless of the rules.

The rules have been relaxed to allow education and work to continue, we are still meant to be exercising caution.

@blueluce85

I'm assuming the eldest was in contact with a positive case and didn't actually have symptoms (otherwise you'd have noticed) so was fully allowed out of the house whilst waiting for results

That's incorrect, once you take a PCR you isolate until you get a negative result

I’d be FURIOUS if anyone entered my home who had been knowingly been in contact, never mind awaiting frigging results. I am a people pleaser but in this case i would a million percent be telling them how furious I was.

The eldest did have symptoms though, a high temp, enough that the mum did a PCR. Of course if you have a high temp you don't go round someone's house whilst waiting for your PCR! Or at least inform them and then they can make an informed choice.

Thank you @HalzTangz that was my understanding from reading all available info too.

@HalzTangz @YodaiamsaidI without symptoms children do not have to isolate and continue to come to school until the result even after a positive contact. This is public health advice for children in school.

In fact they don't even have to take a PCR it's only advised if there are more than 5 cases in one class.

I'd be fuming op xx

If those are the rules that's fair enough,that's the risk of going to school I guess but to come to my house and not say a word!!!!
Wondering what to do for the best as my youngest had be in same class as her dd for the next 3 years and don't want us parents falling out to affect them.She'll get the message eventually I guess when I refuse every favour I'm asked.
She was taking the piss a lot before as I'd only ever hear off her when she needed something but this just pushed me over edge.
Thank you for listening to my whinging all x

@halztangz please see my screenshots regarding isolation whilst waiting for a pcr result if you are asymptomatic. They are from govt website. However the new info the OP has mentioned regarding a temperature, if this is the case then yes the child awaiting results should definitely have been isolating as had one of the three symptoms