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To worry about death?

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bgmama · 18/10/2021 11:01

Sorry to bring the general mood of AIBU down but I wanted to see if there are any other people feeling the way I do and how you cope with it.
I have worried about dying since I was a teenager. This has probably been due to some members of my extended and immediate family dying before their time due to accidents, disease etc. When I say "worry", I don't mean that I think about it every day but in a way it is always in the back of my mind. This has been a blessing and a curse, because on the one hand I have always tried to live the life I want and as a result I have a fulfilling life. On the other hand, death is the end of all the fun and that's what I hate.
It doesn't help that I am an atheist and I don't believe in afterlife. The people who have made peace (as much as possible) with the fact one day they will die are usually people who believe in some sort of afterlife.
So do you worry about death and how do you cope with it? Any interesting books (literature or otherwise) on the subject?

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ChristmasCrafter · 18/10/2021 16:27

Yes. It comes in waves for me and I have periods where I don't think about it at all and then it will suddenly consume me for what could be days/weeks/months. It's definitely worse now that I have my DD.
As other pp have said, it is the one thing we can all be certain of and nothing I do is going to stop it so there is no point worrying about it. That tends to stop me spirally too bad.
The weird thing is, I also used to take comfort in the fact that I would be dead before the world went to shit with climate change but it seems that doomsday has been brought forward too Confused

Conair · 18/10/2021 16:38

I have periods of death anxiety and for me it's always linked to depression.

I get over it then every 5/6 years get depressed again and it's all I think about.

Part of me thinks because my life is quite good on the whole I don't have much else to worry about so I focus on something I can't control.

SirenSays · 18/10/2021 17:04

I'm an atheist and I worry about death. I worry about one of my parents being alone or that my DH might not make it home one night. I worry I will die and my loved ones will grieve.

I don't believe in an afterlife and that's actually quite comforting. I don't want to go to a strange place all alone. I don't want to think about my loved ones hanging around, seeing me at my worst knowing theres nothing they can do to help me when I'm struggling.

I think death will be exactly like before birth, and that wasn't scary.

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