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AIBU to hide things from a friend?

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2lsinllama · 18/10/2021 10:12

I’m going through a bad patch. Huge issues with DH, death in the family, medical issues. Things appear to be coming to a head with DH at the moment and I know I have some tough choices to make.
I have a friend who I’m really close to. We are like sisters and always there for each other. We always share everything. Her DH and mine are also friends and we became a lot like a family during Covid. Her DH has recently had a major health scare, which I supported her through. He is now much better and they have booked a few days away.
So here is the issue. She knows things are tough with me and DH although she doesn’t know the full extent. I really want to not tell her till after her holiday, as they deserve a proper break. She has messaged wanting to meet for coffee. I know that she knows something is wrong. I’ve made an excuse but I think that’s worried her more to be honest. So what would people do in my position? I’m not sure if talking to her would make things worse or better at this point.

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Doomscrolling · 18/10/2021 10:18

How long until her trip?

If it’s this weekend, I’d say something like “mad busy this week, fancy coming for lunch next week when you’re back?” It’s not hiding anything, you’re just choosing your moment.

If it’s next month, for example, I would tell her now are otherwise your conversations with her will be awkward for a prolonged time.

2lsinllama · 18/10/2021 10:25

It’s later this week that she goes. We normally have coffee once a week and breakfast/brunch depending on her work but she’s off all week before her trip.

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