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2 homes merging into 1

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Nikolie · 17/10/2021 21:42

My boyfriend and his 11 Yr old son have moved in with me and my 11 Yr old son ( $). His son $ and I used to get on and the 2 boys get on still. But now ($) doesn't get on with me at all, everytime I try to talk to him ($),I get yelled at by ($), or he starts to cry and then he goes to his room. I ask for some respect, at least a good morning, etc. But I get ignored, blanked and he ($) tries to order me about. His dad and I are working together to try and sort this, but any suggestions would be appreciated. My bf and I have been together for over 7 yrs, so this hasn't been rushed into, and we were (before we lived together) spending 2 or 3 days together most weeks as well. So his son is used to seeing me staying with them overnight etc.

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beinglikedisoverrated · 17/10/2021 22:25

Sorry - I'm distracted from your post with all the dollar signs - are they supposed to be something else?

nimbuscloud · 17/10/2021 22:27

I expect your boyfriend’s son feels very awkward and uncomfortable moving into your home. 11 is a tricky age.

nimbuscloud · 17/10/2021 22:28

Could they move back out again maybe?
How does your own son feel about it ?

Funnylittlefloozie · 17/10/2021 22:29

Why does he start to cry when you talk to him? What does your boyfriend say about it all?

MacMahon · 17/10/2021 22:31

It is very unclear which boy and which dad you’re talking about.

billy1966 · 17/10/2021 22:39

He clearly isn't happy.

This isn't for you to sort out.

Your boyfriend and his son need to move out asap.

It hasn't worked out.

You are being disrespected in your home.

Your son should not be exposed to you being treated this way.

I repeat, this is not for you to sort out.

Flowers
Lightisnotwhite · 17/10/2021 22:43

Just why?
I met my husband and we both agreed living separately meant life was easier
My child is now a young adult. His is a proper adult.

I am still with my husband and we both gave our retrospective houses. This will change when both children have homes of their own. We live together then.

QueenBee52 · 17/10/2021 23:38

@billy1966

He clearly isn't happy.

This isn't for you to sort out.

Your boyfriend and his son need to move out asap.

It hasn't worked out.

You are being disrespected in your home.

Your son should not be exposed to you being treated this way.

I repeat, this is not for you to sort out.

Flowers

Absolutely agree Flowers
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