Getting married and selling house when DC are at uni

[crystalsandpearls]

Me and DP are discussing getting married, I am divorced and have two kids with my ex DH. Me and DP don't live together. My youngest is in his first year at university and oldest in their third year. They both live at uni but obviously come home during the holidays and for visits every now and again. What do you think of selling my house and buying a house with DP. I don't want the kids thinking I'm turfing them out or moving on now that they are adults.

Mine are younger so perhaps I'm clueless, but I think I'd just talk with them about it, reassuring them they will always have a roof over their heads with you. Ideally I'd get them a room each, that they can have as their own and do it up as suits them. It's very hard these days for kids to afford renting independently, so if I could help my kids in this way, I would.

As others have said, I'd also calculate the financial implications of merging household expenses with your partner Vs any decrease in student loan/finance and take that into consideration.

If you've already been holding off living together whilst the kids were in school, you're not selfish at all. I'd have liked for my mother to have find happiness and companionship, not be a martyr.

Happy house-hunting!

Get your priorities in the right order.

I'd keep your house and live with DP for a while (doesn't matter where) before deciding if you want to marry him.