To want a sleep in?

[foreverinadaze]

Me and my husband work opposite shifts. I usually work 4 days a week starting in the morning about 4 to 5 am. He works the nights, 2 overnights a week, and 3 finishes abour 2 am
I am up at 3 am the days I work. And then I get up with the toddler on my days off. Usual wake up currently is 5 am to about 6
I want a sleep in. Every day I'm up between 3 and 5
I don't dispute that he's tired. I know he's tired. I'm bloody exhausted. I've been in hospital with her last week. And now she's got that cold going around which means the little sleep I'm getting is even worse.
When I ask him to please let me sleep for just another hour he puts on this pathetic whingy voice.
I know he's tired but I'm starting to resent him.
And for reasons I cannot fathom the days I'm at work little girl doesn't wake till 7 to half 7. But when I'm off work it's 5 am wake up. I dont know why.
We don't have childcare. We looked at a childminder or nursery but the cost and the changing of our shift patterns just means its not feasible.

Can you go to bed when you get in from work?

Could you pay for a childminder for one day a week regardless of shifts and then if one of you happen to be off you can rest while they're being looked after?

The she settles better for you line is infuriating.

On the days you are working when she gets up a bit later, is that because your DH is not getting her up? What I mean is could she be waking at her usual time but is left to settle for a bit longer whereas you would get her straight up when you hear her. I think you could probably move her bedtime back a bit even if it’s just half an hour. You could use the upcoming clock change to push it back a bit.