I work with a woman who is 33 married with 2 children but it's obvious she wants a divorce and is unhappy. I'm not new to the job but am new to the place of work and have been working with her and a team of about 15 of us for the past month. I am the most junior in the team.
When I first starting working there I noticed that she gets easily wound up and snaps at little things. However she comes across as very aggressive when she does it. At the same time she will pull faces, and huffs and puffs out loud. So it's obvious when she's been annoyed.
I asked other people in the team who have known her for quite a while if she always behaves like this and everyone's responses have been "it's just the way she is".
Recently I've started to notice that it's mainly me that takes the brunt of this behaviour. For example we went away with work for 9 days and everyday it was like walking on eggshells around her. There was nothing anyone could do to please her. She even upset the people from another team that had come to work with us. For example one of them had told her something trying to help her and she just started raising her voice and getting angry. It went from 0-100 very quick. This man who she had a go at is one of the most chilled of people I've met and he had to walk away.
Over the last week she's snapped at me multiple times a day. Huffed and puffed, rolled her eyes and even shouted. She has no patience. I'm nothing but polite and quite frankly I just avoid her to make my life easier.
What do I do and how do I approach it. I came back from the work trip and cried as it had all got to me. The work environment is toxic but it seems I'm the only one who feels like that from our work team. Yet outsiders can see it.