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dealing with parents estate

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masterofdoomv1 · 17/10/2021 07:51

both my parents passed away since december my father died first and everything was left to my mother when she passed away the house was left to myself and the money was to be divided between her six sons. i am now starting to go through everything as ive had health issues and have noticed that theres £4000 unaccounted for in my parents account by unnacounted i mean i know where most of it has went or theres still a large some left and i dont think theres anything innapropriate went on i just think mum enjoyed buyying things online clothes and things for home as well as doing removations to home and i think thats where i think most of the £4000 went but im concerned that there will be questions or suspicion if i cant show how this money was spent or where it went any suggestions?

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Jossbow · 17/10/2021 09:38

As exectutor, you need statements for all the accounts, and have put the account totals through probate before you do anything else at all.

That takes time, and such as inheritance tax needs to be paid long before the eatate is distributed.

If you are not sure, please hand it over to a solicitor, so they have no reason to come back &take any more chunks out of your backside

MRex · 17/10/2021 10:03

@masterofdoomv1 - you have 6 brothers and have only 2 who did those things (presuming you actually know for sure that one didn't have cancer). You are from an unusually toxic family, but so are all your brothers, and it really won't help discussions with them if you have an attitude that they are all somehow to blame for each other's behaviour. The advice to have a solicitor deal with it all is good; you can hand over the paperwork, give them any money explanations needed and they can let you know where something's been spent that needs repayment by you (bills paid from the parent's account after death is a typical one when someone stays at the house, if you didn't change them into your name early enough).

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