Should we move to a new house opposite DS ex?

[humblebeedle]

Hi wise ones, looking for your opinion please.

I have been with my partner for 6 years and we have been looking to move in together for the last few years. We have seen many houses and none yet have ticked all the boxes. We have 5 children between us so size vs cost has been a challenge.

So to the AIBU we have seen a house today that looks perfect in every way except one. Across the road (off to one side slightly but viewable from front windows) is DS17 ex girlfriend’s home. We have discussed it and he says he is happy to move there as ‘it doesn’t matter’. However, I feel that this could be a bit awkward and a move that he may regret.

They have the same circle of friends but their friendship has been challenging at times since the break up and she is now dating someone new.

I have no idea if they have any plans of moving in the future.

So AIBU to put an offer in considering how close the house is to DS ex?

Erm yes you should. I mean he has said it’s fine. I don’t understand why are you curtailing a possible solution to your family’s needs based on a 17years past relationship? I could understand if it was your ex or your partners but not your teenage sons ex.

Buy the house. Your son is 17!

I thought you were going to say your son was 40yo and it was his ex-wife who made his life hell for years with shared children or something.

A 17yo boy who has an ex-girlfriend. Sure I’d move if this was the right house for me and I wouldn’t be taking this scenario into account whatsoever.

They'll both be off to uni/jobs before you know it. Buy the house.

You are being ridiculous. Of course you should move there.

By the time you've moved in, he will be on the verge of moving out

I thought you were going to say it was his ex-wife and he was an adult

At 17, and given how long it's taken to find a house that meets your needs, I wouldn't give this a second thought - he'll be moving out to uni/his own place in a couple of years anyway, I'm surprised you even asked him!

Voted wrong I think but buy the house :)

He’s 17. It’s no kind of issue. Buy the house!

As others have said, buy the house if it's right for you all. DS17 isn't bothered, so why are you?

I’m overthinking it then. As you were 😁 Thank you!