to wonder what you do at the weekend?

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What do you do with your weekends (or days off if you work weekends)? I think there’s loads to do (from chores to fun stuff to relaxing) and am rarely bored. Friend says there’s nothing to do and the weekend is an interminable stretch of waiting for Monday. We both have families and both work Mon-Fri. Friend doesn’t have many local friends to nip round to or go to the gym with (friend won’t go alone) and says that’s the difference between us, but actually I don’t do much of that anyway, I maybe see a friend at the weekend once every couple of months.
So.
YABU: the weekend is dire and I’d rather fast forward to Monday
YANBU: there’s loads to fill your time with, no need to be so bored

Well it can vary can't it.

Some weekends are packed with activity, some are long stretches of waiting for Monday to roll around. No one has exactly the same weekend every time.

DH and I are both working this weekend, as it goes. Both self-employed, really busy and I get double my day rate if I work weekends so I'm cracking on here!

I've booked a last-minute restaurant table tonight so neither of us has to cook. We quite often do something like that on a Saturday. One of the benefits of living in the middle of a city I guess.

YANBU. There’s so much to do, I think.

We have a toddler so still restricted to naps, but our weekends are generally:

Saturday: outing to a National Trust house/garden or museum visit, or library, or meet up with friends, or country walk or playground. After lunch it’s nap for toddler, chores for us and a break on the sofa if possible. Afternoon when DS is up we’ll go out again to a playground if we didn’t do that in the morning, or to do a food shop, meet up with friends with their small DC. Then home for dinner, bath and bed for DS. In the evening DH and I read, watch TV, sit on our phones or play the occasional board game.

Sunday is church then light lunch, nap for DS, prep Sunday roast dinner for me, chores for DH, then when DS is up we used to go swimming, but we’ve just moved so have a free Sun PM now, so probably another trip to the playground then home for dinner, bath, bed for DS then more cleaning up for me and DH then we relax on the sofa with the DCats.

We’ve just moved closer to my DPs so fitting them in for more visits and lunches will become the norm, then hopefully birthday parties and extra curricular activities as DS gets older. Lots of friends want to come and stay in our new house, so we’re hoping to do lots of regular hosting.

Pre-DC it would’ve been a meal out, lie in’s, exhibitions at museums and galleries, long Sunday lunches at our house with friends or going to a friend’s for dinner, and/or a visit to a garden or country walk. Those were the days!

I work a 4 day week. At the weekends we have a long lie, chill out, take the dogs to the beach, generally relax, eat and enjoy being a family. Weekdays are work, very hectic so we offset the weekends with that. My day off I potter, bit of housework, gardening, internet shopping, see parents.

I run out of time to do everything I want. I don't work so most of my week is spent by myself. On the weekends DH is available so we spend time together. We usually do bigger housework like moving furniture, painting, tidying etc as well as our own projects and hobbies.

Today he's working on his motorbike in the workshop and I've been pottering in the garden. We're taking lunch and coffee on a drive and walk to our local forest. Then coming home as we have a food shop delivery and a big homeware and clothes order too.

Tomorrow we have a distanced brunch in the garden with a friend so I'll start prepping in the morning. She has to leave by 2 so we have the afternoon free. I'm currently arranging to look at a car for me so we might do that tomorrow afternoon.

I'd day definitely those with partners (other than single parents) have more to 'do' wider social networking opportunities than single, childless (without exciting careers/and no family/available friends nearby)

Weekends a bit hit and miss, especially with a toddler. Love our days off together during the week as plenty of groups and activities on to keep them happy and entertained and friends usually free for play dates/catch ups and nice routine with the school run etc. Even going to supermarket etc can be a nice trip out with them without the traffic, crowds, juggling older siblings.
Weekends however tend to be quite lonely and hard work, trying to keep everyone happy, fed, housework etc. Will get the occasional day when toddler will entertain themselves for a couple of hours or a walk/trip out that everyone really enjoys and minimal tantrums. Definitely always exhausted by Monday’s though!

We have one son who is 7. DH works some Sundays. In all honesty, we don't plan a lot at weekends. I work Mon-Fri in a high pressure teaching and leadership position. DS is at school and does beavers and swimming during the week.

So, to be honest, I look forward to weekends for a bit of a rest because the week is so busy.

I do the food shop after work on a Fri.

Do housework/ironing for the week.

Do any school prep I need to do and support DS with his homework.

I try to ensure I do something with DS but it's often a nice walk to the next village where there is a park/cafe, a treat trip to McDonald's or something like that. He likes to chill at home at weekend.

In fairness, I do get school holidays so I tend to do bigger things then e.g. we are away for October half term.

I do sometimes look at other people's weekends and think we should do more but I don't think I'd survive the week without a rest!

Mine is boring. Today was walk dog, takeaway coffee. Tonight cinema with mum. Tidy house laundry. Kids sport Sunday. Same oul thing! I have teens

Making ‘proper’ breakfast (including Kilner jars ☺️)
Birthday parties
Trip the park/walk on the beach
Watching a film as a family
Gardening (always masses to do)
Church
Friends over for lunch
Homework/learning project/spelling prep
Pampering once DC are in bed
Sunday Night Baths and Hairwashes for DC

Plus all the usual house cleaning/laundry/maintenance/prep for the upcoming week!

My kids are older so now my weekends are blissful, spend time watching my things on tv, potter about , sometimes do go out with the teens but if not I'm happy at home :)

This thread has made me feel better about my chilled out weekends ! Ive been feeling a bit guilty but fuck it I work full time long hours in a hectic job and am studying on evenings so I deserve a rest at weekends - we all so!

Pre-kids I loved my weekends and did a mix of socialising and chilling out, catching up on sleep, bit of housework etc.

Since I had kids I find they drag. My partner works weekends and my oldest has ASD so taking them out anywhere new is a bit stressful as I'm never quite sure how it will go.

I spend a lot of time standing around in playparks, which doesn't exactly fill me with joy.

Work gives me a chance to switch gears and use my brain, and I get on well with my colleagues so I am quite lucky in that regard. I often find myself looking forward to Monday.

@musttryharder2021 I do have a busy social life but I wanted that so I make it happen. I knew I didn't want a partner/kids so I made a huge effort to make plans and see people and now have a great network between business friends (I'm self employed but network lots) and other pals from work and forums/uni etc.

For me, this is what I want so I made it happen and have lots of childfree pals.

Also love lying along the couch with Strictly though and happy making a nice dinner and having a few wines too.

[quote Wowwowwowwowwow]@musttryharder2021 I do have a busy social life but I wanted that so I make it happen. I knew I didn't want a partner/kids so I made a huge effort to make plans and see people and now have a great network between business friends (I'm self employed but network lots) and other pals from work and forums/uni etc.

For me, this is what I want so I made it happen and have lots of childfree pals.

Also love lying along the couch with Strictly though and happy making a nice dinner and having a few wines too.[/quote]
That's really great to hear that someone has managed to do it successfully. I haven't, and another friend that is childless not by choice also struggles...the trouble is it's not about not making effort, there's nobody to make effort with. And my colleagues are just that - colleagues. I don't see my uni friends (didn't have any,that was in London and over 20 years ago). I'm literally hoping a child gives me a renewed access to different social networks/opportunities.

Lazy mornings, long dog walks, catch up with cleaning, might eat out for lunch or dinner, might spend more time than usual to make something nice for Sunday dinner, enjoy some wine as don’t drink in the week. That’s an average weekend but others involve a day out . Recently we went over to Cambridge for shopping , lunch and a punt!

Your poor friend.
At weekends I have breakfast in bed, sit on the sofa A LOT, run, do workouts, taxi teens around, go for a drink or a coffee with dh, do chores occasionally, read magazines, cook. I tend to meet friends midweek evenings if we can so it doesn't interrupt the weekend.

2 teens DS so usually spend the weekend being a taxi and pretending to watch rugby/football matches whilst having a matter with other mums. Will also fit in a long bike ride to cafe with friend if weather allows. Sometimes fit a few errands in but generally am a bit more laid back in terms of getting up and doing jobs which I try to keep on top of during the week. Apart from all the washing created by said rugby/football/bike rides.

DCs all adult. We have a fairly large allotment so there is always something to do. We have a polytunnel which means that I can even be there when the weather is poor.

Lately am finding them boring. I also really hate Sundays. Always have.

@MiaMarshmallows

Lately am finding them boring. I also really hate Sundays. Always have.

Are you single?

Zonky, I know a few in your position and I know how hard they find it. It does sound tough