If you were 25 what would you do …

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Not really an AIBU as such but anyway.

If you were a 25 year old living with friends with a good job and good friends (albeit friends often busy T weekends with family and friends) what would you do ?

Would you prioritise dating (as in reject offers for dinner with good friends for dinner for online dates) ? Would you feel like the clock was ticking etc

Just enjoy your life and ignore your father. He has no right to expect grandchildren.

I had a kid by 25. Do NOT worry about this. You are young and free. Enjoy it!!! If I could do my time over I'd never have kids in my twenties.

Your dad sounds really hard work and I'm so sorry.

Ignore your dad totally.

Have fun

Don't cancel friends for an internet date? Just no.

Anyway going out with friends etc is a way better way to come across blokes who have a chance of being normal :D

I had the best time 24- 32 between proper boyfriends. Lived alone for a year loved it.

DH met engaged married 1st kid in a little over a year. Engaged after 3 weeks

Been around the block knew how to spot a good one :D met I was 32 he was 27.

16 years still together!

Just go out have fun enjoy yourself. You might meet a bloke. Or not. Having fun so whatever.

Doing internet dating and all that stress disappointment etc? Nah.

Are your friends all in relationships? When you go out is it just dinner or do you go to pubs, clubs etc?

I never did this 'dating' thing. I would meet a guy at a party or club and if we liked each other we would meet up again, often with friends. I never felt like it was one or the other. 25 was serious party freedom age!

Was always really happy being single, but never ended up single for long. Met DH within six months of moving to London aged 22 and really enjoying being young free and single. How annoying It was really easy to meet men in my twenties and I could have been out with a different guy every night had I wished to, but found seeing more than one person at a time weird and confusing.

@saltinesandcoffeecups

Hah.. I was dodging rings at 25. Have fun, be with friends, meet people, Go on dates, have no expectations!

If you want reassurance, I met my DH of 16 years (and going strong) at a chance encounter when I went out with friends. (Psst…. That’s how people used to meet in the olden days!).

I honestly feel for anyone dating in the modern world… yes, meeting people in person through friends, at parties, and at bars was not always ideal, but it seems so much more relaxed than internet and matching and all of that.

In other words, enjoy yourself and where you are right now, all the rest will come when it’s supposed to.

Also at work. Two other guys in the office asked me out at the same time I was seeing DH.

To be honest, yes. I have regrets...

Whilst you should feel free to do what you want with your time...
Going on 3 dates in two years isn't likely to find you your best partner in the London dating scene if you're looking for a relationship.
Meeting someone new once a week for a coffee/lunch or something is surely not going to adversely affect your friend social life is it?
See all the threads on here about there being no good men left by mid thirties (assuming a man's what you're looking for).

At 25, its very much case of hanging out with friends and then if you meet someone you want to get married/house/pet/kids with then great. Do internet dating when you’ve exhausted real chances of meeting people. Unless you are from a religious background and you hold those values then obviously gi according to that road map if that’s what you actually want and if you don’t see above.

I loved living a single life at 25. Probably the happiest times of my life. Settled down around 31, pregnant at 34. Had my DD at 35. Partying, travelling, doing whatever I wanted with friends in my 20s was fantastic

I hadn't met dh when u turned 25, I was happy single. We met through friends on a night out, our first few 'dates' were also nights out with the same friends, then met up for breakfast one sunday morning. Had ds1 when I was 29, married when I was 31 and ds2 when I was 33 (Hes a year younger than I am) i'm 35 next month - don't regret any of it for a minute.

If you want to meet someone then shared passions are great. Join a club or go to a class and meet someone with a similar outlook.

I was newly single at 25 after a LTR. I loved being independent and felt like I'd got ages to meet someone. I actually met DH exactly a year later! I'd definitely carry on as you are as long as you're happy.

I met DH through friends in the end, on a regular night out so, ironically, if I'd cancelled to go on a date, I wouldn't have met him!

I’m way ahead of you ( in my 40’s) and I worried more about getting old at 25 than I do now, so I understand where you’re coming from!

But please don’t worry! If you do what you enjoy, chances are you’ll meet someone through friends anyway.

You have so much time!

I think women are conditioned to think their best years are behind them at 30. It puts so much pressure on young women to have everything sorted and it is so not true!

Enjoy this time! You don’t want to date because you are having too much fun!

I didn’t really go on any dates until I met my husband at 26. And I only met him because I took up a new hobby to specifically NOT meet men or make new friends.

At 25 I was getting a second wind of partying with friends, staying up all night, eating out all the time, spending saturdays at art pop-ups after a boozy brunch – it was amazing! And also a great way to meet people in a more natural way. Most people I knew in relationships at that time were breaking up and didn’t settle down again until early 30s. Please stop crying on your birthdays! I have a friend who was very much like this, miserable on every birthday, obsessed with settling down. She has a family now but what an utter waste of fun 20s birthdays!