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To make up with neighbour before I move out?

12 replies

ForeverQuery · 15/10/2021 10:26

More of a wwyd

Long story short I was very good friends with my next door neighbour for 5 years since I moved in, our daughters were good friends (similar age), they would play out together very frequently.
This was up until the summer until our girls had a falling out, it ended up being a big fall out but little things geared up to this.

I felt her girl bullied mine, she's slightly older, would call my girl fat and other things.
She felt my daughter would start it and was not innocent.
We still didn't fall out but towards the end of the children's friendship our friendship was also fizzling out. Anyway we ended up arguing because I said your daughter is bullying mine, and she flat out said this wasn't the case, we agreed to disagree but haven't spoken since.
Anyway
She was a really good friend to me, we saw each other regularly and i classed her as a friend.
Now I'm moving out I don't know if to just knock on and say bye sort of thing?
Wwyd?

OP posts:
LindaEllen · 15/10/2021 10:32

Tbh I'd just move, draw a line under it, and be thankful you didn't have to live next door to someone who bullies your daughter, and someone who turns a blind eye. I'd be gutted if my child was a bully, and would absolutely not ignore/deny it.

KarmaStar · 15/10/2021 11:09

Just go.You said it was fizzling out so leave it there.if you go round you'll just be fluffing up a limp lettuce.
Hope you're happy in your new home.🌈

Darkstar4855 · 15/10/2021 11:11

Just go.

IveGotASongThatllGetOnYNerves · 15/10/2021 11:11

I wouldn't.
Move out, move on and forget her.

Quotelover · 15/10/2021 11:12

I wouldn't, just move on.

bubbletrumps · 15/10/2021 11:15

Don't do it. She'll probably take the opportunity to have one last dig and you'll end up feeling like a fool for being friendly.

RunningToHeaven · 15/10/2021 11:15

I wouldn’t bother, she doesn’t sound like someone I’d want in my life.

Member984815 · 15/10/2021 11:19

Move and draw a line under the friendship

Lavender24 · 15/10/2021 11:23

Nah just leave it.

Daphnise · 15/10/2021 11:26

Don't bother.

You'd be endorsing the bullying of your daughter, and the idea is full of false emotion.

Florence1960 · 15/10/2021 11:41

I would put a card through the door, saying something nice and wishing her all the best. That way - you’ve drawn a line and avoided confrontation.

Bluntness100 · 15/10/2021 11:54

Seems a shame the way it panned out and that you both were unable to manage your children’s friendships maturely.

I would though, she may also regret it, I’d reach out and say goodbye.

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