For not going on the school run

[sophielis]

I've been off work for a bit due to hyperemesis I am going back soon.

OH seems to think because I am here I should accompany him on every school run.

I pretty much feel like shit every single day I don't need people staring at me thinking what has happened to her (I really do look that bad). I keep forcing myself to go because he huffs and puffs.

He worked 6pm-10pm last night, I got up and got the kids ready breakfast dressed ect they was ready and waiting by the door for him all he has to do his drop them.

I told him I've been having dizzy spells all morning and I don't feel up to it and he's gone out in a mood now. I even let him lie in until 8 he's had more sleep than me!

AIBU

Obviously not
Why does he think it’s a two person job?

Yanbu, you should be resting.

he's gone out in a mood now
Let him!

YANBU.

I’m currently wfh due to quite bad morning sickness and DH is doing all nursery drop offs and pick ups. It wouldn’t occur to either of us that I should tag along, retching into the road as I go.

Why doesn’t he want you to rest and be comfy and look after yourself? Why does he think this is an acceptable way to behave towards his sick pregnant partner?

Why on Earth are you compromising your health like this?

He's being a massive twat! Tell him to just get on with it & don't for 1 second feel bad, guilty or pressured in any way.

He sounds really needy.

Nothing annoys me more on the nursery run than the parents who can't go solo - why do you need two people to drop a child off at a door?!

Anyway, you are definitely not being unreasonable, please rest.

Vomit in his car and his shoes.😅😅 he will never let you near his care again. Honestly though he is being ridiculous, hyperemesis is no fun at all. I spent nearly 8 weeks in bed with it at the start at the year, a walk to the kitchen was perilous and I almost fainted several times.

Why does it take two of you to do the school run.

What's his problem.

What a dick

Why on earth does he think it takes two people? Ask him how many other children are taken in by both parents and why he is the only one who can't do it alone.

Why does he need you to hold his hand?

Any why are you going along with it?

Tell him it only takes one person to get the kids to school and that you need to rest in a bit of peace and quiet, after getting them ready while he stays in bed...

@romdowa

Vomit in his car and his shoes.😅😅 he will never let you near his care again. Honestly though he is being ridiculous, hyperemesis is no fun at all. I spent nearly 8 weeks in bed with it at the start at the year, a walk to the kitchen was perilous and I almost fainted several times.

This

Because DD goes to the nursery on the opposite entrance he seems to think I should be there to make it "easier" but DD goes in at 8:45 and DS goes into school at 8:50 so it isn't really an issue.

I don't think he realises I'm going to be gone all day again very soon.

Our school asks for one adult only whenever possible.

Unless you have to drop them off opposite sides of the country simultaneously or something.

Absolutely don't go! You're not well and need to rest. Is your partner often like this? Does he not feel confident with the children or is it because he feels you've got one over on him somehow/you're avoiding duty?

When I could barely move because of vertigo, my ex had to leave work to take me to the GP - which was just next door- because I had to be dressed etc (couldn't even put my own knickers on) and couldn't walk unaided. That bastard then made me walk (30 min round trip) to the pharmacy to get my prescription. It was a "punishment" because he'd had to take time off to help me. He liked to "punish" perceived slights. It's since been pointed out to me that such behaviour and such a thought process aren't the signs of a supportive partner. Don't you put up with it, either.

I would have thought if you were signed off from work then you should be resting and doing what it takes to get back to work... not being paraded around the streets by your thoughtless husband... I assume he believes you are making it all up then?

I would refuse to do any schoolnrun he is able to do (I.e. not at work for) until you are recovered and back at work!.

He is being totally ridiculous and unreasonable!

The last time we both dropped our daughter off together was September 2020 - and that's because we were then going straight to the hospital to have a caesarean and I knew I wouldn't see her for a few days whilst I was in the hospital!

Having said that, we both picked up on Tuesday as my husband had a rare day off work and wanted to surprise her! Then we all went to Pizza Express.

OP he is being so unreasonable.

@sophielis

Because DD goes to the nursery on the opposite entrance he seems to think I should be there to make it "easier" but DD goes in at 8:45 and DS goes into school at 8:50 so it isn't really an issue.

I don't think he realises I'm going to be gone all day again very soon.

Aaah, the "it's too difficult to manage both children at once" attitude. I know it well. I have no idea why men have this problem. It is NOT easier for you to schlepp out on the school run when you're sick. it is also NOT difficult to drop one child at one gate then move from to the other gate.

Also, nothing screams "annoying family" than the ones who have to do the school run all together.

He's a cunt.

I had to stop the school run due to HG. I now can't because of PGP. My husband does both without complaint.

Tell him he's a cunt.

YANBU.

Me and my DH take it in turns. It doesn't take two to do the school run. Go and rest OP.

Tell him next time he has a sick bug and is puking 24/7 you expect him to do the school run too. Fucking idiot. Him, not you

Huh? It would never occur to me or my husband to both do the school run, even in full health. I do know some people who do it though - but walking and always thought it was sweet but a bit odd.