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DH heavy cold - fed up

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fedup65356 · 14/10/2021 21:55

Name changed for this and not really an AIBU but posting for traffic.

For the last week or so DH has had a heavy cold. Covid Lateral Flow tested just in case but negative.

In a nutshell, I was sympathetic at first but I am now utterly fed up of him coughing and sniffing and fed up of hearing him complain about how tired he is. I suggested that perhaps he should go to bed earlier, but he doesn't want to/won't, instead sitting watching tv all evening saying how ill he is.

Not really sure why I'm posting, just need to vent really. And before anyone brings up 'in sickness and in health', I know, I am just utterly fed up tonight.

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DementedPanda · 14/10/2021 21:59

If he's coughing he needs a pcr. Lat flows are not meant for picking up symptomatic covid. Coughing, fatigue are all symptoms

Pippa12 · 14/10/2021 22:24

Lateral flows only if your asymptomatic- PCR if you have symptoms.

Honestly, 18 months down the line I can’t understand why people don’t get it!

BergamotandLime · 14/10/2021 22:27

Get a PCR.

BrilloPaddy · 14/10/2021 22:27

Jesus wept, not every fucking cold is Covid

Op you have my absolute sympathy. DH has had the sniffles for a week and it's a miracle he's not under the patio. He keeps sniffing, sighing, then mumbling about run down and tired he feels and how he's too busy for a cold....... but hasn't taken 1 paracetamol, or gone to bed early...... so my sympathy has long gone.

Topseyt · 14/10/2021 22:31

Is he wearing the dressing gown of doom and speaking in a weak and pathetic voice? 😉

ApolloandDaphne · 14/10/2021 22:35

I have a cough and a cold (not covid). It is miserable and I know I am whinging. I am also reluctant to go to bed because I just start coughing when I lie down. Thankfully my DH is understanding and lovely about it.

DrinkFeckArseBrick · 14/10/2021 22:57

In his defence...I've had a cold recently and honestly it's been the worst cold ever. I've struggled on which I've only been able to do because I've been wfh and can go to bed for a bit on my lunch break. As soon as I lay down my cough got worse so I kept putting off going to bed. I honestly felt so drained, it was mad considering it was just a cold. One day after 2 weeks of no sleep and feeling like absolute hell I woke up and just cried as i was so sick of it. 4 weeks on and I'm just starting to feel like me again. On the plus side I've lost a few pounds as was feeling to gross to eat much. So maybe he has one of those worst colds ever that's been going round.

If not and he is like this every time he gets a minor illness, he can get in the bin

mountbattenbergcake · 14/10/2021 23:03

YANBU. So are you doing everything else while he moans?

MobyDicksTinyCanoe · 14/10/2021 23:07

There's a really nasty cold doing the rounds, its knocked my poor dd sideways. She's given up going to bed because she ends up choking on snot and mucas and is currently dozing in a recliner chair with the tv on.

FindingMeno · 14/10/2021 23:13

Yeah I'm currently laying here, can't sleep for coughing and I know I'm disturbing everyone else.
Mine is covid, but I had the cold from hell a little while back and there's not a lot of difference.
Be kind to him so he'll be kind to you if you catch it!

Veryverycalmnow · 14/10/2021 23:20

We've all got bad colds in our house. It is really rubbish. I hate the moaning we're all doing but it's the 'soldiering on' competition here and at work that'spissing me right off. People are telling their stories of how they've kept going to work when they've had pneumonia etc. The words 'team player' and 'strong work ethic' really piss me off when it's about health. Sometimes people need to be off ill and get some rest so they can get better. Anyway, I'm not off sick but should be.
I seem to 'soldier on' through my working week and then absolutely crash at the weekends.

Gagagardener · 14/10/2021 23:21

I heard it on the radio, so it must be true. There is a very nasty not-Covid cold about, with a hacking cough, and it takes a while to clear up. Eat apples, the dr on the radio said..

EatYourVegetables · 14/10/2021 23:28

I have that. DH is very supportive. It’s been 2 weeks and neither the cold nor DH are running out of steam.

Twilight7777 · 14/10/2021 23:38

I had a chest infection, tonsillitis and laryngitis all in a 4 week period. Definitely didn’t have Covid as I did a few tests. With these Illnesses I got a real exhaustion, where I could barely move off the settee, my mum had a similar thing and couldn’t move either. If your DH had this exhaustion I’m not surprised he feels so bad. If he refuses to take paracetamol or rest then maybe he doesn’t feel as bad as he’s making out. Paracetamol was the only thing keeping me going at one point, could barely eat.

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