How often do you speak to your close friends on the phone?

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I have a friend who insists on speaking every single week on the phone! it's draining. I have told her I've been a bit busy this week and she knows I am at work, yet she rings my mobile for a chat.
It makes me not want to talk to her. We are very dear friends, I've been honest with her and told her it's a bit of a struggle every week to speak on the phone, but she still rings - half the time I don't answer as I am in the middle of something.
What is the expectation when you are good friends?! how often do you speak on the phone to your friends?

Never. WhatsApp chat most days.

Never. I hate the phone

Never - always WhatsApp/Messenger now.

Never! WhatsApp and texting and meet ups every few month

Hardly at all - my closest friends all lead very busy lives. I would make time for someone who needed to chat one-off, but a regular thing would be too difficult to manage.

Another never, the only regular phone call I make is to my parents. Friends are all on WhatsApp.

Never! We have a WhatsApp chat group that we say hi on a few times a week but I honestly can't remember the last time I spike to any of them on the phone.

Never, whatsapp/Facebook messenger, although we did a couple of video calls in lockdown.

Honestly.
It's SO draining. It really is. We do whatsapp and she voice notes me from time to time, but half way through whatsapping she will ring me - and i can't exactly not pick up as she will have seen me online.
Any tips on how I can be a bit more robust and clamp down a bit? as I have already told her. I don't want to hurt her feelings, but I simply just don't even look forward to talking because it's so draining.

Sometimes a broken convo over a few days a wk, others 1 a week, others 1 every few wks.
To never speak to your friends I would say you aren’t very close- a good friend will appreciate you may be busy (I’m usually tidying up when I speak to mine, and if the kids interrupt I have to go etc),

Not very often. But I think it's rather sad that phonecalls have reduced. WhatsApp is great for low key chat and but it's nothing like a proper phone chat. That's when you find out how people really are.

One friend (20 years older) that I've clearly annoyed because I can't keep up with the phone call 'requirement'. I find calls draining and hate the awkward silences with her. I expect the friendship won't last because of my failing in her eyes!

All other friends happy to keep in touch via FB/whatsapp. Mum is only one I wish to talk to on the phone!

One of my friends made a new year resolution to phone people a while back. It's nice.

Until the end of last year, almost never.
I was diagnosed with cancer and now I talk to my oldest friend on the phone for an hour each week. She calls me either on a Sunday afternoon or a Monday morning depending on what else we have going on and we catch up on our lives.

It's a lovely way for us to reconnect as we live miles apart (she should have come to stay in April last year but Covid!) and neither of us are at work at the moment.

I have never called my best friend. She knows me better than that.

Never ever ever ever. We zoomed a bit during the lockdowns but now - never

I always call my friends rather than text. I speak to at least one every couple of days Its good to talk even if about mundane crap.Love my friends to bits and we are all good enough friends to say if its not convenient to speak ! My children are all good at messenger and chatting with Mum.I really don't get the problem!

Most of them - never. We message and meet in person. I do have one who likes to talk on the phone. We probably talk on the phone twice a year.

Most days, we chat on the phone whilst cooking and cleaning. I find I’m much more productive with getting things done whilst I’m on the phone, it seems to distract me from the fact I’m folding washing or cleaning the bath. We regularly call each other ‘because my house is a mess and I need to clean it’

I can't stand Whatsapp.

I have a couple of close friends I speak to once a week and a few others once a month. I don't phone those friends I see locally.
Is your friend single? If so, you'll be part of a vital support network for her. Those weekly phonecalls were my lifeline when I was single - even if nothing serious was discussed.
Obviously phoning when you're at work is not on.

Never. I hate the phone and FaceTime even more.

A friend tried to schedule me one night a week during lockdown. I tried but I dreaded it all day and in the end just couldn’t keep it up. It’s bad but I made up being busy at work to get it to stop.

The only person I’ll do it for is my mum and even then I have to work myself up to it.

I’m so much better spontaneous and in person and I want to give people the best of me.

Almost never, only if there's big news like when she got engaged, when she found out she was pregnant and when she gave birth. Or if we need an answer to something quickly. Other than that we talk on messenger loads every day.

Only when we can’t meet up for some reason. We don’t WhatsApp every day, or even every week, we message when we feel like it, and occasionally have a chat on the phone. I’d find weekly calls very time-consuming, and they’d probably be bored to tears, as I rarely do anything amazing apart from work!

Never! We text on and off for a few days, then won't have contact for weeks, then we text again! I've not seen her in 2 years, she lives miles away from me now, hoping to meet up this Christmas though! We have always been like this and it's never awkward or weird.

Most of my friends still live down south, so I rarely see them, we text occasionally, every 3 months or so. We never phone one another. Last time we met up was last Sept.

My dh and his pals phone each other or facetime probably once a month. He's much better at keeping in touch then I am.

I don’t like phone calls. I Zoom with groups of friends occasionally, but I’d far rather have an ongoing chat via WhatsApp or text.