How are you doing?

[Sofiegiraffe]

Is there anyone in your life who regularly asks you this question and truly cares about the answer? If not, do you wish there was?

I'm asking because I have no one in my life who asks me this, and it would mean the world to me if a member of my family or a friend did. Seems no one truly notices when I'm struggling. Or perhaps I'm very good at hiding my struggles... who knows. I'm not sure if I'm being particularly emotionally needy about wanting this (I'm 6 months postpartum so it's entirely possible!); or whether it's normal to want this.

I suppose my AIBU is: Am I being unreasonable to wish I had someone in my life who asked me this question from time to time?

YABU: you are being needy, most people don't have this and just get on with life
YANBU: it's normal to want or need this and most people feel the same.

I think it's very normal to want this. I think it's also important to find people who you can talk to. Sometimes people forget to ask, or think you'll speak up.
I hope you're ok

YANBU OP, I think this is important. I have a few people in my life who ask this and mean it, and when I ask them how they are, I really want to know the answer too.

How are you, OP?

YANBU but it’s best to find a way to not want what you can’t have. As they’re all oblivious you need to speak up and start the conversation, quite possibly they think you’re ok.

@ThatCampWitch

YANBU OP, I think this is important. I have a few people in my life who ask this and mean it, and when I ask them how they are, I really want to know the answer too.

How are you, OP?

I'm struggling. I have a 6 month old and I feel as though I'm letting her down every day by not being a good enough mum. I have no family support, and very isolated every day, I feel like I've totally lost my identity in being a mum. I am drowning in housework and caring for a baby. I am due back at work in a few months and she will be on childcare and the thought of it is killing me. I am just very lost at the moment.

How are you today @Sofiegiraffe?
I'm so sorry your post has slipped down the board
I hope your little one is giving you smiles and snuggles!
You haven't lost your identity being a mum - baby care does take over for a little while though.
Do you have any friends who are around during the day? And I'm sad you have no family support. Is your partner about?