Friend with PND

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My friend has just told me she has PND. our two kids are friends but it's a tricky on off friendship.

I want to help but what should I do? I work full time, not sure I can expect my dd to host her dd for a chunk of time because they regularly fall out. Not sure offering to take the baby without older dc would be that helpful. She's estranged from her family so she has no help but she does have a lovely supportive DH.

If you've had PND what helped other than breaks from the baby? Or do I just need to suck it up and offer to have both kids.

We are not wildly close but I feel a moral duty...

Being supportive doesn’t necessarily mean you babysit the baby
With pnd she will be offered MDT support potentially baby groups,maybe a support worker
HV and GP will monitor her she’ll be assessed how she’s managing with baby

A good start is listening and being there in non judgemental way. Be a pal

You’re not compelled to take on additional babycare so don’t knock yourself out, be realistic and honest what (if any help You can offer)

Yeah I don't want to be a martyr about it but also feel I should do something. Maybe listening is enough.

Listening is really important, that and being nonjudgmental. Just be you
It’s a real support to have a consistent pal who listens
She’ll understandably be scared and anxious