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AIBU?

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Neighbours dog - what time is Ok or AIBU!?

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Boysboys1 · 12/10/2021 22:17

I always like to turn to mumsnetters for some practical advice! So, we moved into our new house during the pandemic, so pretty quiet evenings all round, but for the last few months, the neighbours dog (we live in a semi detached) barks about 3-4 nights, sometimes more, a week from about 7pm to about 10.30-11pm, sometimes later. They’ve had some loud parties which is totally ok. They’ve always been polite and let us know in advance. BUT we are a young family and my son has just started school and goes to bed at 7.30pm and us about 9pm. I’m worried I’m being unreasonable because it’s not that late but it’s a continuous barking and howling and there’s no way we can sleep through it. It goes on for the whole evening with no respite. I’m feeling nervous to speak to them as we aren’t the most quiet of neighbours as we have two young children and there’s tantrums and mornings in the garden etc, but it’s started to really effect us and we just sit up listening to the barking. I’ve grown up with dogs BTW, we are dog lovers but AIBU to think they need a minder or something when they’re out so many evenings? Thank you!

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lazyarse123 · 13/10/2021 13:55

@RosiePosieDozy

Sounds like separation anxiety to me. Poor dog. I think you should tell them because it's affecting you but also because they probably don't know what's happening when they're not there. Then they can put some training in place. Definitely let them know. I'd appreciate you letting me know if I was them.
We had this with our neighbour. Poor dog sounded so distressed for up to 8 hours most days. It was upsetting and annoying in equal measure. I put a note through politely saying "I don't know if you're aware etc". She took it really badly and made as much noise as she could, doors banging constantly. She came to the shop I work in to tell me he was ill and having to be put to sleep and so I should be happy now. What a cow.
IrishMel · 13/10/2021 15:48

I had this with a lovely neighbour before but we got on so well. She was struggling at the time and when she had to head off to her family I took her dog for the weekend and it did not bark once. We gave him lots of attention and he was so good. I think some people just block it all out but in this case it seems like the family are out. Keep a note of it all but do go and talk to them as sure they would want to know as the dog is very distressed. Have a dog and she barely barks, think only heard her bark a few times but she is spoiled. Does my head in the constant barking of other dogs and not fair on the dogs either. Why do some get dogs and leave them outside to bark for hours. This dog is stressed and bored and should not be left for so long as not fair on you or the dog.

IrishMel · 13/10/2021 15:50

7.30 is early though to have children outside if making normal kids noises I would think, others might disagree with me. Good luck talking to neighbours.

DarlingFell · 13/10/2021 16:12

Jeez, I cringe when one of my dogs pops out for a wee and lets out a bark at 9pm, and always run out to get her (have been known to do this a. naked and b. in the middle of winter).

Your neighbours are utter shits I'm afraid.

IrishMel · 13/10/2021 16:38

Darlingfell we are the same, she lets out a weird deep bark and rarely barks at all. We always think of the neighbours. Someone near us has one of those small dogs who seem to bark more than large dogs, that yippy yappy screechy bark that goes through your skull. Would love to shout shut the feck up but don't want to bring trouble to our door.

Boysboys1 · 04/11/2021 09:53

Sorry, realise I haven't posted for a while. The dog has been silent this week so far - I still haven't been over. It just makes me nervous and uncomfortable but we'll see how the barking goes. They did go away for a night last week (they've never done this before!) and the dog was barking all night until 7am. My poor DH was so exhausted the next day, he didn't get any sleep at all - luckily my eldest was at a sleepover with his grandparents. I'll let you all know any progress in case anyone else is in this position and looks back on this thread. Thanks for all your replies

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TaraR2020 · 04/11/2021 10:03

Oh the poor dog!! Sad

I would never leave a dog alone overnight, even if it didn't have separation anxiety Shock they really need to know how distressed it's getting!

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