5 year old being bullied

[NoFrills01]

In the space of two weeks a boy has "hit my child in the face at lunch"

"Chinese burned" sorry to use the phrase my childs arm

Tripped my child up

Today scratched my childs hand with a pencil and broke the skin

I am raging! I've requested a meeting with teacher and head teacher

My child tonight has had over 30 episodes from being so anxious of jolting full body

We work so hard to build them up and then another child just tares them down, please tell me what I can do or say at the school and anyone who has had experience of 5 year olds being bullied how to help them recover

Get a copy of the school's bullying policy from their website. Use it to make sure they are following their own policy.

Make clear you expect them to keep your child safe.

Keep a diary of incidents so you can be clear about what has happened since not all incidents will be noticed by the teacher.

Keep in mind they cannot discuss details of this other boy with you.

Goodness that's awful OP. I'm sorry I don't have any advice hopefully the school will be proactive in putting a stop to this, your poor DC. I'm beginning to fear the start of a bullying situation with my DD also 5. She only started school last month and is so confused as to why an older girl is acting the way she is - she doesn't see it as bullying yet as she's been so cocooned up until now that she wouldn't understand why anyone would be deliberately mean I was just relaying it to her dad this evening and said the same thing as you - you spend the early years trying to build them up, just for one child to come along and potentially destroy all that innocent confidence.

I hope the situation is resolved for you soon and your DC doesn't suffer anymore

When my daughter was in reception she was hit over the head every morning by a boy in her class. It was like a ritual. I wrote to the school and told them my child was not safe in that class. I said unless this stopped immediately I would report the HT for not keeping my child safe. The parents were told to come in and the boy stopped doing it overnight. I didn’t want my daughter thinking this was normal and she just had to put up with it. The mum of the boy still glares at me now but I just ignore it. Good luck x

Put all your concerns in writing so it’s on record. Use the bulling policy to point out what’s not happening to keep your child safe. Demand the child’s parents be brought in and spoken to.

If it continues, complain to the board of governors, in writing that your child isn’t safe and you’ve had no luck with the teacher and HT. the LA is the next route after that.

Have you talk to the teacher after each incident?

You need to go in cool and calm, explain your child isnt being safeguarded and what's going to be done about it. School cannot discuss anything about other child with you so focus on your child.

I had something very similar happen to my 5 year old. I took in an A4 page of photos of the injuries and discussed it with the head teacher. I realised in the meeting there was very little he could do to immediately stop the other child so i rang around and got another school place and withdrew my child the next day. Best decision ever.

Some child tried to bully my cild in nursey, the other child being bigger and a year old, cut a long story short my daughter pushed her over and was never bullied again. So yes some kids can start early, and the quicker its nailed on the head the better. Your poor boy so young and going through that is terrible. Is there a group he can join, like a mini football team, something to raise his confidence.

We are also having problems but dd is 8 and the school seems very ineffective at tackling the issue.

Given the serious nature of the bullying I would speak to the Head and expect it to be dealt with.

Don’t stand for this OP. You are right to be raging. Sure you’ll get some sob story about the other child being troubled or something. No excuse. No excuse for feckless parents’ feral children to be making other children lives a misery. No excuse whatsoever.

@Annoymouser2

Some child tried to bully my cild in nursey, the other child being bigger and a year old, cut a long story short my daughter pushed her over and was never bullied again. So yes some kids can start early, and the quicker its nailed on the head the better. Your poor boy so young and going through that is terrible. Is there a group he can join, like a mini football team, something to raise his confidence.

Go girl. If they don’t stand up for themselves, the bullying just carries on.

At that young age the school should be able to stop the other child bullying your child. If the ‘bully’ has his own issues then the school should be ensuring that he is supervised. Things may be hard for him, but your 5 year old can’t be expected to understand that or make allowances.
I once had a similar problem when my daughter was bitten by a boy when she was 5 or 6. I felt the school made too many concessions to the other child and made it known that I expected them to ensure my daughter didn’t suffer.
As things turned out he tried to bite her again and she hit him ( she was used to dealing with her older brother), and he never touched her again. He still picked on other children though until the family moved out of the area.
Your school needs to be tackling this issue. Complain to the head teacher, (every time), and if necessary the school governors.

The child has rapidly progressed from hitting and pinching to using a sharp weapon. This could turn nasty very quickly. You need to speak to the school about safeguarding, but honestly the quickest solution is for your child to retaliate.

Stay calm
Speak to teacher. Explain the severity
Teach your kid that some kids have a bad spirit and can be mean
Doesnt mean all kids are though
And teach him to keep his distance from the kids and teach him to tell the teacher straight away. And... teach him to push back if need be.

Sorry this is happening to him x

If your child is only 5, the best thing you can teach him/her is to stand uo for themselves and hit back hard!