So we have finally rebooked our holiday to see my in laws family, and my sister. We were meant to go last October but couldn't due to Covid.
Last time we booked over a year in advance and let my parents know that we were going. Immediately my mum says " oh maybe we will book too!" I had to politely ask her not to - as its our holiday and with the other side of the family and my parents behave different around the in-laws and I see them (my folks) alot but obviously don't see my sister or my inlaws alot. ( and I actually really like them ) anyway she was hurt and put out ( bearing in mind they had literally just seen my sister a month before I broke this news to them) any way rambling back story -
This time we have booked I have asked the other side of the family not to mention our trip yet to my parents as I don't want them to try and book a ticket at the same time ( and neither does my sister as she really doesn't get on with them - they are selfish and difficult )
My husband thinks I am being unreasonable and told me I should just tell them because they will be hurt if they find out from someone else, so I told his family members not to tell them - Now I look like the bad one - (they have no idea of the issues in our family)
so do I tell my parents and if they mention they will get tickets hurt their feelings again and say no please let us go alone
Or... wait a couple of weeks when the tickets are so pricey that they simply just can't afford to come.
My mum is very jealous of mine and my sisters relationship as we are SO close and my sister simply can't stand my mum..
thoughts???