To do a table plan for wedding meal out?

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We have a private dining room booked for our wedding after our registry office ceremony.

AIBU to do a table plan and ask the restaurant to put the table seating cards out?

I don't want everyone to just go in and sit anywhere and I don't speak to some of OH's family so I'm trying to save myself from an awkward evening

Of course not x

Nope, absolutely fine! I think normal wedding rules would apply.

I'd do one, went to MILs wedding and they didn't have a table plan so it was a free for all....total chaos!

Absolutely you should do a table plan. Otherwise chaos will ensue!

Yanbu, I’ve beento a couple like that and they did name cards

It was a relief not to have an awkward ‘who goes where’ moment

Ah thank god didn't know whether it would be a bit cringe since we are not having a reception. But the thought of free for all to sit anywhere gives me anxiety 🤣

No, you must do a table plan. When I used to arrange corporate meals in restaurants there was always a table plan. If you use favours with name tags it'll make more sense to those who think there shouldn't be one.

Are you paying as in is it part of the planned celebrations?

Or, is it reg office then all make way to x restaurant? More casual and folk paying themselves, like a more normal meal out?

I think it takes a lot of pressure off people if you do a seating. No worrying about whether they’ll get to sit with family : friends as it’s all sorted.

Otherwise you end up with one group sitting in the middle of the table, say, and then another group being split up, and then maybe one person can’t fit on, so they’re alone with people they don’t know… seating plan just saves all the nightmares. It’s like a gift from the bride and groom- they have the stress of doing it , so that guests don’t have to stress on the day!

@1FootInTheRave we are paying

If people have had to preorder their choice, you can also put what they chose on their name card which saves a lot of faffing

CMOTDibbler - that’s a good idea!

Definitely do a seating plan or you’ll end up with about ten minutes of hovering and “if you just move down one…”

Why are you inviting people to your wedding that you don’t speak to?

How many guests?

Why are you inviting people to your wedding that you don’t speak to?

Presumably her fiancé wants his family there

@shouldistop

Why are you inviting people to your wedding that you don’t speak to?

Presumably her fiancé wants his family there

If there was a member of my family that caused my fiancée so much anxiety they didn’t speak to them, they wouldn’t be invited to my very intimate wedding.

Only one person I don't really speak to and it's his brother so I can't not invite him. We're having 9 guests.

All fine. We have them for family Christmas dinners - big ones. And that's a less formal occasion.