To ask people not to ask about Baby Movements

[RosieLemonade]

In my last pregnancy I had severe pre natal anxiety. I never received any help for this despite asking several times. It has taken me 5 years to gather the courage to try again. I self harmed a lot and though never made a suicide attempt I did think about it every day.
My anxiety was based around baby movements. It consumed every second of my life. I never enjoyed a baby kick or movement as I would then just be waiting for the next one.
Now I'm 17 weeks with baby number 2 and so many people have asked about whether I've felt baby (I haven't). I can already feel the panic coming back. Would I be unreasoanble to ask people not to ask me about baby movements (obviously not HCPs!)
Disclaimer: I know people don't really care and are saying it for something to say!

I think you need some specialist support through this pregnancy to overcome your anxiety. Please confide in your midwife about your feelings.

I totally understand you. Kick counting puts such pressure on the mother and it's incredibly stressful.
I understand why it's recommended but if you have an anxious nature you just end up spending half of your pregnancy petrified and trying to interpret what you're feeling. By all means ask people not to speak about it. It's bad enough when the midwife asks...

From the thread title it came across as if you meant in general, for other pregnant women. But if you want to ask people pre-emptively not to bring it up I think that’s absolutely fine. I would want a friend to do this rather than me ask and cause distress.

I do think you should still try to get some help for your anxiety though.

I asked at every appointment in my last pregnancy for help. I was told someone would be in touch but no one ever did get in touch.
This time I've had two appointments and two midwives. Both were now leaving the profession but I did tell them about my anxiety and they said it would be in my notes.