To think there needs to be more middle class domestic abuse on television/film?

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Watching Maid on Netflix, the one thing that really resonated with me was Alex, the protagonist, was well educated and enjoyed her studies. Whilst not MC, I always felt like domestic abuse was a thing that happened in the council estate where I went to primary school, in soap or gritty dramas to people who were poor, or on drugs. The idea that the university boyfriend, or the rich boy or the sophisticated older man could be abusive just didn't cross my mind.

I remember hearing that someone from my college had been beaten by her boyfriend and fled with her young child and wondered what happened to her. Had a sad feeling that as all her friends were away at uni having the time of their lives, she was forgotten.
I wonder if so many women ignore the red flags because they naively think that the floppy haired indie boy won't hit you. I certainly did.

'Angela Black' is on TV at the moment and sounds as though it ticks all your boxes. Personally, I can't bear to watch anything that upsetting as a work of fiction and prefer to have my eyes opened by documentaries. In my (limited) experience, domestic abuse in middle-class settings is more covert and harder to identify as shame plays a big part and wanting to keep it a secret from family and friends. It often has a control element to it rather than a back-from-the-boozer loss of control. Very stereotypical but from my experience. Anyway, no, don't feel the need to watch it on TV.