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AIBU?

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To be amazed at this CFery

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OldClothes · 11/10/2021 23:59

I am a charity shop co-manager and we have a nice group of volunteers. I had a call from a young man on behalf of his girlfriend today who enquired about vacancies. When I said there were none, he asked if we would consider dropping a volunteer so we could accommodate her, as she would be 'brilliant' and versatile. WIBU to be amazed by his cheek and to block his number?

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OldClothes · 12/10/2021 10:01

I hope it's not an abusive situation, and I don't really think it is. As Billandben says, I'll probably never know what his GF is like now.

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Bluntness100 · 12/10/2021 10:21

What an odd reaction. Block him? Make sure he gets the message? Are you always so dramatic?

HopeHappy · 12/10/2021 11:12

@caketiger

I must add this, have worked In several industries and you would be amazed how often parents would contact companies asking for work experience for their 15-16 year old. The young people that got that opportunity were the ones who made the contact themselves.

This happened to us and I wasn't keen on the idea but we went ahead with an interview anyway. It turns out he was an excellent candidate but just has a slightly overbearing father!

OP's caller is definitely a CF though!

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OldClothes · 12/10/2021 11:37

@Bluntness100

What an odd reaction. Block him? Make sure he gets the message? Are you always so dramatic?

Not always, no. It was more of a case of not wanting repeat calls. We have a full quota of volunteers and others on standby.

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WomanStanleyWoman · 12/10/2021 12:15

@Bluntness100

What an odd reaction. Block him? Make sure he gets the message? Are you always so dramatic?

I don’t think it’s particularly dramatic to not want to have your time wasted by calls such as this. It doesn’t matter how ‘brilliant and versatile’ the girlfriend is - she isn’t needed, and once the OP had said so, that should have been the end of it. (That’s before we even consider that she was neither brilliant or versatile enough to make the call herself.)

I block the numbers of pushy salespeople, and really this is no different.

Cuddlyrottweiler · 12/10/2021 12:19

A young lad trying to help his girlfriend. I can't get mad about it.

WomanStanleyWoman · 12/10/2021 12:21

Why can’t she help herself?

Rachie1973 · 12/10/2021 12:24

@me4real

Aww, cheeky but you have to admire how he's trying to promote his GF really.

She probably doesn’t even realise he’s trying to get her a voluntary position lol.

He sounds pushy enough to ‘know what’s best for her’ lol

Needcoffeecoffeecoffee · 12/10/2021 12:28

I think hes watched too much of the apprentice and read too many online how to get a job blogs which generally focus on this kind of approach

lorca · 12/10/2021 12:38

Def CF! BUT -

I once worked in an office which out-sourced some work to another company just down the corridor.

Our company hit bad times and the out-sourced work was the first to go.
A clerk working in 'out-sourced company' actually complained to our manager that they were still employing me, a part-timer, when they could let me go and keep her company working!

Ok I was part time (as were most of our employees) but i was actaully employed by them, not just brought in as she was!

This same company threw a hissy fit because they were not invited to our £50-a-head Christmas do! (And paid for, obvs!) And IIRC at one stage they wanted to know when they were going to get their (OUR) uniform!

Yes our manager was as soft as shit.

2bazookas · 12/10/2021 12:41

How very bizarre.

Muchasgracias · 12/10/2021 12:46

YANBU on the basis that she either a) didn’t even bother to call up herself so probably isn’t best in a public facing role or b) you’d take her on and have to deal with him calling up to offer feedback/organise her shifts/ complain about the conditions etc etc….

AdoptedBumpkin · 12/10/2021 13:09

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AdoptedBumpkin · 12/10/2021 13:11

OP - some bizarre people work in our village shop, according to the manager. The tales always amuse.

BreatheAndFocus · 12/10/2021 13:17

I wouldn’t block his number because I’d want him to call back so he could explain about how his great new system was going to work if you dropped a volunteer to have his GF - and then a new person phoned and volunteered. Would it be perfectly ok to then drop his GF in order to accommodate the new volunteer?

HirplesWithHaggis · 12/10/2021 13:21

@DreamingofGinoclock

Is so odd isn't it! ....don't know why parents (and their children) think that they should speak for their young adults ....when in 6th form I had a job that involved being in the offices of a retail store on a weekend ...a lot of the staff were 16-21 .... The number of times parents would call in sick for their children ....I had to explain each time that I couldn't put the call through to the manager as he would only take the call from the staff member themselves (rightly so).

Although there was once one poor mum was like ...buts she is in hospital ... In that instance I did transfer her to the manager!

Even odder was the part time, zero hours, minimum wage job my son had when he was early twenties, where the manager did want me to call if he was sick! I declined, the woman was... unfit for her management role.

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