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AIBU?

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To stay away from my family and the drama. Always drama.

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Kb2942 · 11/10/2021 20:49

Always a drama with my family - my mum, her husband, my siblings who are much younger than me, my mums siblings etc etc. Also my stepdads family who are mainly estranged now.

It's always been the same. Always something going on. Always a falling out. Always someone smashed something up. Not just falling out between each other - sometimes other people. Often someone drives their car too fast and crashed etc. Drink driving. Alcohol fuelled rows too, alcohol abuse issues, violence etc. Plus they like to cause a scene in public with different things. Rows with strangers over the most stupid things. They like to draw attention to themselves.

I grew up with all this, it's not new. Childhood waste pretty toxic. It's shaped who I am. I have major issues. I am constantly trying to be the perfect mum - which I'm not and I built myself up for. Caused issues in my relationship as I never witnessed a normal relationship growing up. I moved out at 18 and never looked back!

Every family has its issues and I know no ones family is perfect but some of the stuff that's happened is pretty bad.

I still see my family occasionally, for the sake of my kids. I don't let my kids witness this shit, they have no idea.

I just have no time for the drama. People trying to drag me into it and I don't want to take sides. They all can scream and shout at each other!

Surprisingly I'm the complete opposite. I like the quiet life. I'm the least aggressive, argumentative person you could find. Sometimes I wish I could stand up for myself more, I always too scared to growing up and it's shaped me.

But yeah not really sure what the point of my post is. Don't really have anyone else to speak too...

But aibu to distance myself even more than I do? Every day I'm being rang or texted with the latest drama. I've never really shown much interest or got involved yet they don't seem to get the hint.

I'm just drained. It's been multiple things the last few days mainly involving alcohol and I feel done with all of them!

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PikachuAndMe · 11/10/2021 21:41

I think you are right to keep out of but why are you seeing your family 'for the sake of the kids'? I would stay well away and not have my children involved with them at all. They sounds like losers.

Kb2942 · 11/10/2021 21:42

@PikachuAndMe

I think you are right to keep out of but why are you seeing your family 'for the sake of the kids'? I would stay well away and not have my children involved with them at all. They sounds like losers.
You are right! But I still want to see my grandma as do my kids - shes amazing. But that often comes in a package with the rest of the family. I wouldn't let my kids witness any of it. we'd be straight out the door!
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