My feelings are probably unreasonable but I just need to vent!
When my son was born, I was the first of our group of 5 friends to have a baby. When I told the group that I was pregnant, one of my friends told us all that she didn’t want to talk about babies/pregnancy as she was desperate to TTC but her husband wasn’t yet ready, so she found the whole thing upsetting.
I was very understanding about this and didn’t talk about my pregnancy with her. The thing is, we almost always meet up as 5 so I very rarely saw my other friends without her, meaning that my pregnancy was never discussed, no baby shower, no excitement at all.
At the time, I felt like I just had to accept this and understand that, while my baby was a big deal to me, it wasn’t to anyone else and I didn’t want to upset a friend so just had to suck it up.
The friend in question is now 14 weeks pregnant and I feel like all we ever talk about is her pregnancy. Days out with the girls now revolve around looking at baby clothes and her telling us about her symptoms in minute detail. She’s already asked us to plan her baby shower and wants it to be “the baby shower to end all baby showers”.
I suppose one of the good things to come from this is that my friends now actually ask me about my DS and I’m allowed to talk openly about him (none of the other girls have children yet).
I’m genuinely happy for her that she is finally having the baby that she has longed for but almost feel a little bitter that I’ve missed on the excitement for myself.
AIBU?
Im fully aware that I am incredibly lucky to have a happy, healthy DS and these feelings are irrelevant in the grand scheme of things!