To ask if I should send him to nursery

[Rosebel]

I used to work as a nursery nurse so always try to be considerate about sending my son in if he's not well.
Obviously if he's been sick or has something like chicken pox I keep him home. However he picks up a lot of colds and coughs and then I'll send him in.
This week he has a really horrible cold that he's given to me, his dad and sisters so we all feel crappy.
He's incredibly whingy just wants cuddles and is sleeping loads. I can't decide if I should send him in tomorrow and let them call me if need be or keep him home.
I'm hesitant because last time this happened work didn't pass the message on and SIL had to pick him up.
Just for the record he's 16 months so can't tell me how he's feeling.
YABU send him in
YANBU keep him home

Ummm no. If he’s sleeping and wanting to be held he shouldn’t be going in. If you felt awful would you want to be turfed out of your bed?

He's given it to the whole family.

I'd suggest keep him off and not let him give it to the whole nursery. It sounds like he needs cuddles from his Mummy.

When mine are this obviously poorly (whinging, extra naps, generally miserable) I keep them home if at all possible. The reason is 1) not to pass it on 2) they can recover better if they’re home, warm, and napping than if they’re running around the nursery with their friends.

I personally think ok to send for cold symptoms, otherwise let’s face it they’d never be there, but only if they feel well in themselves and will be fully able to participate in nursery activities. You’ve said whingy, clingy and sleepy so I would say he’s not well enough to be there and needs to stay home until he’s better. Obviously if we are talking cough, fever, anything that could be covid related then you also need to get a PCR test. Hope he gets better soon!

Coughs and colds fine- temperature or lethargic- no

Just for the record he's 16 months so can't tell me how he's feeling.

But he is telling you how he is feeling:
"He's incredibly whingy just wants cuddles and is sleeping loads."

He feels crap and isn't well enough to go back to nursery.

Definitely keep him home. He needs to be with a parent (or someone loving, one to one at home) when he’s clingy and just wants to sleep.

I'd keep him at home. If he wants sleep and cuddles, he needs one to one care that the nursery won't be able till give him.

If it's a runny nose but otherwise the child is fine, running around, eating and sleeping normally, I send them in but if they're unwell like you describe, I'd keep them off.

What’s his temperature OP? If mine had an even slightly hotter temperature than normal I used to keep them off in this state.
I sympathise, I kept my little one off on Friday when she was borderline ill and she was running round like a clown all day while I wanted to sink into the floor with exhaustion!

His temperature was 37.1 this morning but came down with Calpol. I will keep him home, unless he amazingly perks up by tomorrow which I think is unlikely.
I suppose I just know work will give me a hard time about being off but I've told them before that if my baby is sick that has to come first (and they know I always make up my hours as much as possible).