My body.. is it me ?

[simplytherest]

I have a very big belly .. wobbly and untoned. For context I'm two stone overweight, size 14 and 5'7".
I am conscious of it to a point.
I'm proportioned physically.
Here's the thing. I'm with my boyfriend over a year and we are smitten and are on the same page. We enjoy intimacy regularly and are very attracted to one another.
But.. while he likes to rub and stroke my body all the time when being intimate, he has rarely touched my belly.
I have wondered if he has found it repulsive ?
The other night he said that he loves rubbing my body because my skin was so lovely and smooth . In the heat of the moment I asked him if he loved my body . He is not outwardly complimenting , it's just his way , so he just said' yeah'.
That was it.
He also has excess weight especially around his middle which doesn't bother me at all and I will often rub his belly affectionately .
AIBU to think he has an issue with mine , am I overthinking it and if he does have an issue, is it ok in relationships not to find certain parts of the body attractive without your attraction and feelings for that person being affected ?
Thanks for reading .

Personally I hate my belly touched. Even before it expanded! Ime belly rubbing is for during pregnancy only!!

I think you’re overthinking it

I'm going to guess that your DP isn't keen on his own belly and he's projecting that by thinking you're not keen on your belly either so he avoids it. He's probably thinking I won't upset her or make her feel self conscious so I'll avoid it altogether.

If you're comfortable, I'd say it to him that you feel self conscious about it and why does he avoid it. Just be open & honest - two years in you should be happy enough to talk about things that are uncomfortable.

I think it's a common things for women to not like their stomach being touched, so many men avoid that area. If you like it being stroked, just say so.

I don't have any significant body hang ups (beyond the usual), and my partner does show and tell me he loves my body. But I don't think he has ever rubbed or stroked my belly

I think he knows you’re self conscious and is being sensitive. It sounds like a good relationship, enjoy it!

If you can't handle the possible answers I personally wouldn't ask and forget about it.

Stop overthinking and stop doubting yourself. Stop attributing your thoughts to him. Men do tend to be more visual - if he didn’t like the way you looked he wouldn’t be having sex with you.

Don’t overthink it. He sounds ace.

I think it's very likely he's trying not to draw attention to something that many people would be self-conscious of - tons of people hate their stomachs, especially women (which they shouldn't, but it definitely is a thing).

If a man started rubbing my belly I would think he was a creep imagining getting me pregnant!!

I HATE having my belly touched, even by my husband. Not that he touches it much anyway except if we're spooning.

I'm a size 14 too with a belly. My bf hasn't commented on it, in fact he said I've got a scrumptious body! I'll take that

I think you're over reacting, I'd find it weird if my dp was rubbing my belly. Plus if you're laying in bed facing each other and he has his hand on you surely he'd be rubbing your side and back rather than your belly as that would be awkward, wouldn't it?

Don't think my DH particularly touches my belly except when I'm pregnant. And I have a pretty flat belly which I don't think he could possibly dislike (even if he was that nasty which he isn't)! I don't really touch his either, which is also flat and nice. I like looking at it though!
I don't know why I don't really touch it often. I don't really touch his calves either. They just aren't 'touchy' places 😆