To tell my DD she can’t go to a club based on previous

[Shockedmama]

Issues with girls where she was isolated and left out,
She wants to go back after years being away saying it’s the only club she ever liked. Things are diff now as she doesn’t care when the girls do these things and says she will have other friends. She also says why should she stop doing things she likes cos of others.
I’m so worried about her but she is also friend with them sometimes. Do I just let her do it and support her or do I keep her away?

It sounds like she wants to go and if she understands that the girls who were not nice to her will be there and is still willing to try then you should support her.

Be watchful and check in with her but let her go if she wants to.

She sounds quite wise and mature

How old is she?
I'd be tempted to let her go, but pull her back out if she changes her mind again.

Yes, she's getting on with life despite adversity, this is the resilience they talk about so much - good on her.

How are people understanding these posts?

Sounds like she understands the situation and wants to go regardless. She’s sounds like a lovely sensible girl. I’d let her go.

Definitely let her go!
She sounds wise and if things don't go well you'll be there to support her but please let her give this a go.

Thank you all. She is so so wise and also very kind. I feel so worried for her as they treated her quite badly but she is putting up a good case to go and I don’t want to hold her back, or teach her that you avoid things cos of other people. I just hate the thought of these girls leaving her out of making her feel bad as I know At some point they will try. But she tells me she doesn’t care, and will make other friends and won’t let them dictate her life.
She’s 11

Think I will probably need to learn to just be there if she needs me.

Definitely have a word with the club/group leader about why she stoped before. I run dance classes and try very hard not to allow bullying between students, I would welcome
back a returning student and would want a heads up to keep an eye out for any potential conflict.