Did he abuse others too?

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Pretty sure I was abused by an older man when I was a teenager.
How do I find out if he did the same to my then friends?
I'm not really in touch with any of them anymore only on social media. It's not really a question I can just ask on a private message but I need to know.
What can I do?
Aibu to private message such a question? And if so how the hell do I word it

Anyone?

Could you ring them? Or ask to meet up with them in person?

Why is it important for you to know now?
How are you pretty sure?
I think if you want to ask you need to just ask outright. ‘Sorry but something has been bothering me and I really need to ask you something ….’

I think you risk causing all kinds of upset for your friends to be honest

I have no words of wisdom op but didn't want to read and run. What are you hoping to gain by asking your then friends? Are you hoping to pursue justice? Or to gain comfort from knowing you weren't alone? If not in order to pursue justice, I wonder whether it's better to work on your own trauma and its impact, perhaps in therapy?

What do you want to gain from this?
By asking others you risk shocking some and upsetting others.
It's such a difficult situation.
I'm sorry that you suffered.

I am sorry that this happened to you.

Have you sought any professional help to support you in understanding your experience and dealing with the distress?

I wonder if seeking out others is avoiding facing your own pain or need for exploration.

You could speak to the police to get a disclosure on Sarah’s law or Clare’s law if he has committed further crimes.

You could look at the support online at Rape Crisis or ask your GP to refer you to counselling.

Has something happened recently to trigger this memory?