Wedding gifts

[BunnytheFriendlyDragon]

I know there are a lot of wedding gift threads but honestly wondering what to give.

Friend (bride) getting married soon. DH and I are invited. Not staying the night as it is a weekday wedding and we cannot get both days off work but going to the ceremony, wedding breakfast and party (if relevant).

Friends are professionals, as are we.

Friend could not come to my wedding snd did not send a gift BUT this was a few years ago and I consider us closer now.

I have previously given £40 as a gift but thinking this is not much.

WIBU to give £50 cash

Posted too soon.

No gift list.

I don't know, I'd consider cash more something to come from family at a wedding? Not entiquette-wise or anything, just doesn't seem usual. But that might just be me. If they have expressed they'd prefer cash (and I have no problem with this personally though some do), then £50 from a friend should be OK.

I always give £50 cash unless family.

I asked about gifts and vouchers and they haven't said.

If a voucher where would you get it for? John Lewis seems to be popular for a voucher.

I think most couples living together would appreciate cash over gifts. So if they already have their home I'd give cash. We have given £100 to friends when going as a couple.

I think £100 is more than I feel I want to give

I don't think I received that amount from any friend. Around £40 seems to be more common.

I find vouchers quite a hard one as you are then stuck to buy from there and there could be nothing you want from that particular shop.

Are they going on a honeymoon? I've given cash in the currency of where they are going a few times.

£50 cash in a lovely card is perfect OP.

40 or 50 is fine.

Give 4 x tenners it'll look more

@RainyDayzs

I find vouchers quite a hard one as you are then stuck to buy from there and there could be nothing you want from that particular shop.

Amazon maybe? If you can’t find something you want from there, you’re in trouble!

I would go £50 cash or John Lewis voucher. Don't overthink it. Both would be very well received in my experience, especially if they haven't requested anything in particular.

It is very, very personal, and a good friend wouldn't judge, nor even particularly 'register' who gives what.

There is a train of thought in some circles, that, if your budget allows (and there is no obligation if it doesn't) , that a good guide would be to "cover your plate"..... ie, if you and dh went out for a lovely 3 course meal, wine, bubbly, aperitif and so forth, what would you think nothing of paying then. .......... which does sort of fit in with what your budget is rather than trying to give according to the budget of the people paying for the wedding.

My nephew got married a couple of years ago, and when this came up about his sister going to someone else's wedding, they said they received really varying amounts from £10 upwards, and that it didn't reflect any pattern of age or relationship or what you might perceive as the budget of different people they were given money by.

I gave £40 cash as I had not got around to getting a voucher and had the cash at home. Thought about sending the card and voucher later but prefer that I have done it.

Worried it might be too little but I am on mat leave on reduced pay at the moment so trying to save money.

BUT they weren't at our wedding a few years ago as they were at a family wedding and didn't send a gift. We have just had first DC and they haven't given a gift and that hasn't bothered me. If I was not on mat leave I would probably have given £50-60.